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i want to come out at school

EliNight
EliNight

I’m 14 and I am ftm. I’ve already came out to my family, most of them just brush it off but they will except me if I keep trying I’m sure. I can’t stand being called my birth name at school or anywhere else and when people call me by the opposite pronouns I want. I want to come out to my school but I am really scared. I want to go on horomone therapy but you have to be 16 I think where I live. I just want to be seen as a guy, but my voice is a big issue.  I have a really good group of friends and we’ve been tight for some years. I’m afraid my very best friend for four years is not going to except me because she says stuff against the trans community sometimes. The rest of my friends I’m sure will be alright with it though.

AnnieToman
AnnieToman
lately i have seeing a lot of early onset f/m trans . from what studies i read this is appears to be a new trend. before it was a vastly lop sided m/f trend . now my recommendation would be the same for either m/f or f/m ,, unless you have support of your parents so that your on HRT and transitioning, i wouldnt push the issue at school. without parental support you won't get school administrative support thus it would be a muted point more trouble then its worth.. so the real issue for now is your family, win their support then you can be your self at school also. no easy task but must be a do-able thing
starsintheskai
starsintheskai
Hey,
I am going through a similar trouble, and it's stressful. But people who don't accept you for who you are, aren't friends nor people to be surrounded by. The best thing is to surround yourself as much as possible with people that support you, and/or understand (in some ways). With the comments from your friends, mostly they are meant as jokes in the moment, or can be, but if they are meant to be real, the best thing is to make it sure you are uncomfortable with the jokes, ask to stop, or else they'll just keep going.
squaber
squaber
Hello, I am FTM, and started transitioning in College. I know how hard it is to be addressed by a name you don’t identify with. I would recommend a few things, get your parents on board first if you can. Ask them to start calling you by your chosen name, and then get your friends on board. You will appreciate all the support when you transition full time at school. You could also start with just the name, and maybe tackle the pronouns at a later date. If that works for you.