Transgender Support Group

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I need help knowing how to cope.

AScruffyKitten
AScruffyKitten

I don't know how to cope with this. Ever since I was little, I remember being different. I liked different things and always played different games than most of the other boys I was put with. I didn't realize it until I was about 13, (last year) but I'm transgender. My Mom seems to tolerate and support me with it, alongside most of my friends. To my knowledge, none of my other family members know. But unfortunately, my Dad hates transgenders. He thinks that we are mentally unstable and should be removed from society. I still remember the day. He became very aggressive towards the topic when I brought it up. I had to listen to all of while I cooked, on the verge of tears. I just don't know what to do. I'm depressed and have been diagnosed with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder.) I put on a mask so people don't know, but it is getting worse. I don't know how to deal with this. Even if you can't help, I appreciate that you have read through this. Thank you for any help you can provide.

tonyamelbourn
tonyamelbourn
hi it sound hard for you but i can tell you that if you are in crises you should turn to your doctor for some help you cant stop the way your dad feels about it but if he dose learn about you he may come around but maybe not go slow and let others have time to come to terms with the new you.
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
So you need to go to a therapist. You will need one because of the things you have to do to transition anyway, Why I say it now is if you get your diagnosis and you are going to a therapist already his little thing about being mentally unstable can be proven false because your therapist wouldn't diagnose you trans if you were unstable. That is part of the standards of care. So that kinda shuts his craw right there. I am assuming your mom and your dad are separated? If they aren't, then ask your mom to handle him. If they are, well you will have to make a choice on what you want to do. You have to be happy and to be frank he isn't worth it if he isn't willing to love you regardless. So be happy. I know that isn't very helpful since you obviously care for your dad but its the truth. Do go get a therapist and that should give you a launching off point for a whole lot of things.
AScruffyKitten
AScruffyKitten
Thank you for your help. I had a therapist at one point but she made mild sexual advances towards me, and I stopped going. My parents are together and are happy. I try my best to be happy, and I usually am. I just have to purge those thoughts from my mind, usually through distractions. I'm moving next March, so maybe I'll find some things that help.
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
well not all therapists will do the same thing and realistically that therapist should lose their license for behaving inappropriately. In the end the choice will be yours. I do know that repressing things can poison your spirit so watch out for that, I was a complete and utter ... well word I wont put... because of it.