hey i COMPLETELY know how you feel! when i was in jr.high...i only dressed in my brothers clothes for 3 yrs and i did and still act guyish...now though my mom won't let me wear guys clothing and everyhting so i dress girlish and i don't mind it too much but i have this kinda dominate guyish atittude..and sometimes i feel like being girly! for me i feel like im stuck between the two...i like being a girl in someways but in other ways i feel like i should be a male and i would rely RELY love to be a guy!!! my parents don't know anything about me being a lesbian or my confusion of maybe being a transgender too...and if i did tell them i would have absolutely no support and would be kicked out of my house no joke! but i wanted u to know ur totally not alone at all and im here whenever ya need someone to talk to!!!so hit me up!!! :) hope to ttyl!! -cal

i think the best advice I can give you is to take a breath and realize that you dont need to have this all figured out today. Take some time, explore your thoughts and feelings, and learn to recognize your own inner voice so you can then decide what it is that you want.

I agree with inpainincanada, just take your time and go easy on yourself to figure out how you really feel. Sometime after I came out as trans to my family I spent a lot of time really thinking about whether I was really a guy inside or not and it came down to that I really am, but, the time I took really thinking about it was very beneficial because now I know in my heart 100% I'm a guy and will go forward with transition one day when I can afford it and am in a safe place. Just take your time, you don't need to know absolutely right now, the answer will come, you just need to be gentle with yourself and give yourself the time to figure this out.

I guess the way i say it get's lost in the translation.... but i think you've missed the obvious.

That is you. Maybe it's my age... but if i were to meet you i am sure i could quickly arrive at many good things about you- all the while you focus on this.

I'd like to argue that you and your future is yet to be known, and therefore it is a mystery... and so are you.

The solitary fact that you have the capacity and wherewithal to even come here and post this way says so much positive about you as a soul- do you have any idea how many minds are dead to these thoughts?

At the risk of offending anyone- could you consider you are a gift to the world... but even you do not yet know it!!!

I hope you find in your heart to take this seriously because you really are someone special to this world... we "all" are.

Sure it's tough socially when others diminish us- it's but a measure they put out to overcome what they perceive as a threat.

We have to know- it is not that we are bad, wrong, at fault, and so on- it is all too often the ignorance of others spread through social convention and fear that is applied to us all too often.

The truth in part is out, the message is believe in yourself, it's o.k. to do so. Not everyone on the planet is 100% male or female- the percentage runs the spectrum... and so do we!


yea Us!

-Marina

I have to say that my reason for wearing "guy clothes" and acting "guyish" at times is because I feel more comfortable in them. It doesn't necessarily mean I want to be a guy, I just want to be me. Whatever you decide to be, just be comfortable. I wear my girly stuff sometimes but I usually have to work at it. It feels like an alien skin. I also have to mention that the clothing industry is cruel that they make women wear tight, low cut shirts and heels. I mean I'm already like six feet tall and look like a giant, heels aren't helping me.