Transgender Support Group

This community is here to support and help the large population of transgender people. If you or anyone you know identify as transgender, this is the place to share your feelings and experiences and speak with others who are going through similar things in their lives.

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Petemoss
Petemoss

I go by Pete, and I recently just came out to my family about being trans and wanting to move forward with my FTM transition. My family has accepted me and want to help me out in any way they can, which is a huge load off my shoulders, but sadly my boyfriend of three years ended our relationship. I don't blame him, he didn't sign up for this.


My family wanted me to go see a psychiatrist so I could have someone to talk to since they don't really know much about this, except for my sister. They have suggested that I join a support group and get to know others who are experiencing/have experienced the same things that I am right now.


A little about myself:


I am a senior studying Geography with a minor in Biology(ecology focused), I am attracted to men but am worried that men will not be attracted to me since I won't be a "real woman" or "real man". I am in the process of losing feminine muscle and building more "masculine" muscle in my upper body to get my body healthy enough to consider T and top surgery. I have cardiac arrhythmias (PVCs & PACs) so I am not sure if T will be possible for me. I unfortunatley will never consider bottom surgery since it seems rather extreme.


I would really like to make friends on here and be a part of an accepting community where I can feel safe and learn from others who are like me.

SecretDudeThang
SecretDudeThang
Pete, I too am looking for friends on here. My name is Jess. Really, I'm seeking anyone with similar experiences that can relate. I'm so glad that your family has accepted your transition! That is huge. Like.. huge. I currently have only told a few friends and my husband, that I identify as male. It's been a well kept secret for 23 years. My husband is finding it hard to stay with me. I totally don't blame him but it's really taking a toll on me. I'm also afraid (as you are) that if I do transition, that men won't be attracted to me because I won't have what matters down there. Have you talked to any doctors about your health issues and if testosterone will affect them negatively? I'm intrigued that you're building muscle first.. I should probably try that. Also are you finding it hard to be accepted as male without the testosterone?
Petemoss
Petemoss
Hi Jess! I am sorry about your husband :( I think that's something that should be discussed in couples therapy. I haven't talked to any of my doctor's yet because I'm still in the process of setting up appointments and finding a new cardiologist. Although my sister and I have found quite a few medical papers on the subject. I personally feel like a man myself, but obviously my tummy doesn't reflect that quite yet. I'm not sure how other people really see me, my family has already adjusted to just calling me Pete, but to be honest that's been my Nick name since I was a baby so it's not a hard transition.
bluesprite72
bluesprite72
When my trans sis starting living full time female, just starting the t blockers, she would go out fully as a woman. She said it was in how her attitude was, in how people treated her. When she went out she acted like she was already fully woman, because that is how she finally felt. She gets hit on by men, called miss or mam and I fully believe it is what she puts out there from her attitude. Think and act fully male and that is how others will treat you. People who aren't trans (like myself) we don't go around looking for the people who don't identify with what they were born with. We just go about our day, running errands, taking care of our kids. So, most people aren't even going to notice anything, unless the way you carry yourself is different. It will all fall into place eventually.