Learn to accept and know who and what you are and be comfortable with it. Ive said this time and time again in these forums. If you are suffering from severe dysphoria because of something like the clothes you wear or the haircut you have, you have not accepted who you are and this will haunt you forever until you do. There will be no amount of change you can do to make it be okay with you inside. Now what do I mean by that. Best to use an example and me. I am a almost 41 year old male to female, I started transition at 32 so this means that there is absolutely no more changes that testosterone could do to me and that all those changes were long since solidified. So how did I manage to serve in the Navy, Live 32 years as a male and the fact of spending almost 9 years transitioning? I knew I was trans at a very very early age I just didn't have a name for it till later in life. As I transitioned I was always seeing a man in womens clothing in the mirror. I favor my father in appearance. My half sister also favors him, we look enough alike that we get asked if we are twins. She is much taller, broader and bigger than me and as she puts it, has the chest of an 8 year old. So why does she never get called sir? Its not the clothing or the hair, she has short hair and doesn't dress all that feminine so why. Because she knows shes a woman. I took a long hard look at myself, I was transitioning to a woman, women wear mens clothing, they cut their hair short, some wear makeup and so on, so what really makes a woman a woman or a man a man for that matter. The only answer is the fact that they know through and through that they are. I gave up the whole "being a pretty woman" concept and tossed all my makeup, went back to wearing more male clothes (jeans tshirts tennishoes) and went out, all of a sudden no one (save those who were still adjusting to me) was misgendering me.... Like hardly ever if they didn't know the old me. Why? because I realized I didn't need all that other crap to be a woman. Sure I still have dysphoria, I cannot handle being touched at all short of someone shaking my hand. Any form of affection makes me cringe because my body is not correct and I am working on that. But being me on a daily basis is the simplest thing on earth even if I have to use the mens room, even if I have to have short hair, whatever. None of that changes who I am in any way. You need to figure out who you are, what you are, and fully accept it.... THATS how you deal with the dysphoria. Its not easy it takes time, but you can have all the surgeries and items in the world to try to make you a man, or a woman or a dinosaur, but if you look in the mirror and all you see is the person you don't like, guess what.... your still going to not like them.

Which do you want more? To transition now or be in the military?

This post was made some time ago but I still wanted to add- maybe you don´t have to chose. there are lots of countries where you can be transgender and in the military. Many people move for their jobs, even to different countries and so could you. Also Trump woun´t be in power forever.so only because you wouldn´t get in as transgender now doesn´t mean you won´t ever get in. Lastly (and this really depends on the people you would be working with) you could be cis on the papers but living as trans. Good luck (also I agree to what WyndWych said- repressing dysphoria sometimes seems like the easiest and least painful option but in long term it really isn´t most of the time)