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Feeling not good enough

aerity
aerity

Does anyone ever feel like they are not good enough to transition? Like you are not enough of the gender you feel you are, because of how you were biologically born.


I am female to male, so sometimes I feel that i am not masculine enough to transition, like I shouldn't even bother because others might view me as being too femimne for a man. I know it is sily to let other peoples judgements hold me back, but it is very hard to brush them off all together. 


I'm all ears for any advice. 

Phyxius818
Phyxius818
I think fear of judgement from other people is a huge issue for most of us, if not all of us! Otherwise we might begin our transitions so much sooner. I know how you feel. I'm a trans man (pre-everything) and I second guess myself all the time. I'm a bio female, so should I just live as a woman and learn to be happy that way? I think we have to listen to our hearts and follow them. It's too bad that society makes us feel so bad about ourselves just for being different.
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
Everyone doubts, but the fact of the matter is that you need to get your nose out of media. Transition is as much about finding out who you are as it is about changing the outside elements to match the inside. No one is going to be X person, only that person can be, so don't look at these male models and actors thinking that's what you have to be. Go to a mall and look at men, they are all shapes, colors, sizes, and a spectrum from looking very fine featured to hyper masculine. I myself am never going to be some cute 20 something girl. that's simply not in the cards, I am overweight, and 40, so am I good enough, yes I am good enough to be me, that is all that matters, once you are comfortable with you, you wont be called male or whatever and the hormones and all will change your voice and cause facial hair and all so the rest is just you being you.
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
Correction, in your case you wont be called female, mine I am rarely called male. just for clarification. in your case the hormones will cause those changes, while I have to condition my voice, so on. that is how it should have kinda read, but I hit send before rereading.
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
Correction, in your case you wont be called female, mine I am rarely called male. just for clarification. in your case the hormones will cause those changes, while I have to condition my voice, so on. that is how it should have kinda read, but I hit send before rereading.
Pennsylvania
Pennsylvania
I felt that way and let it hold me back for years. Transition is scary stuff. And when you first start you won't pass (unless you're really lucky). But hormones and surgery are powerful stuff. It takes time but if this is who you are and what you have to do, putting it off for fear will only mean you'll do it down the road after you've lost precious time.