the only person who is going to be able to aid you with your fear is you. A therapist can help guide you into getting over it, but you are the one who you are battling against. You said it yourself in your post you "{will think they are looking at" you. Even if no one looks at you, you are still going to think that way which is where that statement comes from. Ultimately the fear is quite normal, there are those out there who will be nasty about it, and those who won't, so i am not saying that it is wrong or unjustified either. You will have to make the choice on your own to do it or not. Now as far as tshirts and jeans, lets be real, unless you are choosing something extrodinarily effeminate no one is really going to notice or care what you are wearing. If you walk around wearing a shirt that says "sexy chick" or something like that poeple are going to take note. If you are wearing appropriate clothing (clothing that fits your age bracket, is not attention drawing) then you will blend in with the crowd and no one will notice. As far as shaved legs, male swimmers keep their legs shaved all the time, as do male bicyclists and then there are some guys who don't have much hair to begin with or don't like body hair so that really is not much of a concern in reality. I guess the point is, if you try to stand out, you are going to, if you try to blend in, you likely will for the most part. I have a place I go that has a person who sometimes is there dressed male, sometimes wearing a dress. They have the halo balding but the person draws no attention to themselves and 99% of the time, no one even notices they are there. Your own fear will know you are there and thats what you need to deal with.

Listen to Wyndwhich she's right!

Right now you are fighting a battle on acceptance of yourself. I have been where you are and its not fun. Just let go hun, stop fighting it, let the feelings come out, let your heart sore and fly! Once you accept yourself you are going to feel liberated, and its going to be beautiful. :)

And then also realize, who cares what other people think, they don't know you, they don't know what you are going through, so why let them effect your life? Be yourself, and make your decisions for yourself, not for what other's are going to think of you.

Good Luck
Ashley

there are some stores online where you can purchase females clothing without leaving home, however this comes with trial and error, because of not knowing wither the clothes will fit, and so the chances of picking out the clothes, is by blind luck, without trying them on first using the stores dressing room. for now, lets say that you picked the clothes you like online, and they fit. great. now the next step is working on feminine appearance, one quick way of doing this is by looking at the rest of the ladies, shaving unwanted hair is the most important. the next step, some of us naturally has long hair, and yet some has short hair.. well, the longer the hair the better, one quick way is visiting a beauty store, and pick out your choice of hair, makeup, hair brush, eye shadow, lipstick, nail polish. now the last step before the transformation begins, is working on your inner self confidence, getting over that fear, of what people might say. who cares what they think? once you have worked on your feminine appearance, and your dressed, now its time to come out to face the world.

I am MTF and I have dealt with what other people think about me my whole life. Their comes a time in a persons life when you have to ask yourself "why am I allowing strangers that I don't even know decide who I really am on the inside.
For me I had to give myself "Permishion" to accept who I was created to be, and not allow total strangers to make this diceshion for me. When I took his leap of self acceptance, I discovered that I became a lot more at peace with who I am and not so worried about what other people thought of me.

wow......looks like I could have written this topic of yours....wow....anyway, I am afraid of the same things that you are, but am slowly working my way into the female world.....if you are ok with it, try going out at night at first....it is harder to see you at that time....but stay in well lit areas for your safety.......dont give up on your dream here.....keep on trucking my friend.

In high school I would wear my older sisters jeans, but then it was sometimes hard to tell them apart. As long as the jeans look good on you who cares what other people think. And don't worry, I wax and save my legs and don't get bothered at all about it, just do it. heck I go to the local beauty collage and get my underarms and chest waxed, and I have yet to have anyone say anything. and if they do I imagine it behind my back in which cases I don't care. If your nervous about going out in public with girl jeans and top, just start wearing them at home and gradually work your way out of the house. good luck :)

What Melinda said is very correct. Most general Womens clothes as far as jeans and Tshirt are quite similar to mens. So you can largely get away with wearing them on a daily basis and no one would have a clue (this is assuming you are not wearing something heavily embroidered or a shirt with "princess" across the chest). As far as shaved legs and such go, it is not uncommon for men to do that now, so its kind of irrelevant. Swimmers shave their entire bodies as the hair causes drag in the water as do Runners and cyclists. Take this into account that women wear mens clothing all the time and you have a situation where short of putting on a dress or skirt, you can wear largely anything you want and not have an issue.