Transgender Support Group

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xxamyxx
xxamyxx

since i was young i have been dressing up in girls clothes on the side so always knew that i wanted to be female. i suppressed the feelings through my teenage and part of my adult life and got married to my amazing wife and had 2 beautiful children but in the last few years to especially now my feelings have got stronger and stronger to want to be female. a few years ago i told my wife that i have been wearing knickers on and off, she was not very supportive of that and said she can not deal with it. i dont know if i could come out fully and be myself as i could lose her and my children and im pretty sure that my family would dissone me as when my mum caught me as a child she was not happy and just assumed it was a phase. im really confused and feel totally alone as not a single person knows about this.


KarenCC
KarenCC
I have a very similar story. I am a male in my 50's, have three grown children and don't wish to let them know for fear of destroying our relationship. My wife is very supportive, but is very bothered by my need to wear panties and pantyhose under my clothes and my need to shave my body hair. I think ultimately we will stay together, but as just friends. We won't have sex if she is turned off by me not being a full man. I don't care that much if I have sex. I have lost my sex drive since recently realizing I am trapped in the wrong body. A nude woman doesn't turn me on, instead I yearn to be just like her. And a nude man doesn't turn me on because I don't identify with him. I realize it is a no win situation. Coming out will destroy my relationships with my family and friends and not coming out will leave me feeling trapped and frustrated. So don't feel alone. There are many out there like us. Just have realistic expectations.
xxamyxx
xxamyxx
thank you karen, it is hard because i dont want to lose anyone but im really not happy with myself i suppose i can see in time if i can be myself 1 day without destroying everything. it does help that there are others like me on here that i can finally talk to as like i said there is no one that i know that can relate or understand.
Firsthand
Firsthand
Hey i am going through the same deal married for 7 years with two kids and I just couldn't hold it in any more. So I came out and at first she was supportive and said she's just a little confused. But now I'm a freak and I'm in the boat of keep going with my transition loose her as a wife? I know what your going through. But keep your head up girl. You be you and remember you don't change on the inside. Your just matching the outside with the inside.