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Came out and family is unsupportive

Transitioning1091
Transitioning1091

So, I'm new to this site, my girlfriend found it last night. Basically, I came out to my parents last night while arguing with my sister and parents about other things. It probably wasn't the best way to do it but it was weighing on my chest for so long I felt like I couldn't hold it in anymore. I come from a caribbean background where being gay isn't really accepted. I first came out as bi in my first year of college because i've always had an attraction towards women. Soon enough I realized that I could never see myself with a man again. I've known for awhile that I was supposed to be born a boy. I never said anything and always tried to repress the feeling. It got to a point where I am dating my current girlfriend and told my parents we're together. They like her and accept the fact that were together. I think by me telling them I am trans just pushed it over the edge. I told them I am a man in a womans body. I have already talked to doctors and am on a wait list to see a specialist. I told them everything. They're not supportive at all. My sister some what, parents not at all. I feel the need to leave my house and the family business and just be on my own. I'm not finanically stable at all because everything I make I put back into the business. I have never lived away from home. I'm scared and I feel like no one understands expect for my girlfriend. My parents feel shamed and I have a feeling once I start my transition they will want nothing to do with me. I have depression and anxiety already and I feel like this is making things worse. I have been hiding my entire life (25 years) how much longer do I have to hide?

BAELEAF_JOURNIE
BAELEAF_JOURNIE
Omg u poor (boy) don't wrry we all get through stuff like this just because family isn't supportive doesn't mean friends or others are not just have hope and stay head on strong
WyndWytch
WyndWytch
you were in an argument and told them, they were already upset, that got put out to them. this means they are going to react from a place of anger. It is also a hell of a shock for a parent to find out something like that. To them the person they knew is dead and someone else standing before them is who is their child. that's going to take some getting used to. You have 2 courses, one leave it all behind believing they will never be supportive of it and do your thing, or two, stay in it, have the strength to educate them and let them see how positive it is for you to go through it. You list that your sister is somewhat. she can help be an advocate for you to your parents. In my case my mom was very understanding, my brothers not so much. My mom told them one simple thing that changed their whole way of thinking. She told them "I Have seen them smile truly for the first time since they were a baby and I don't feel the need to call them to make sure they are alive. I don't care if they dye themselves purple as long as that continues. they are happy" I had been in transition for about a year at the point I told everyone. so she had a bit of time to see things change. So run or stay is up to you, but if they can handle you being with a girl, they will be able to handle this in time, but its gonna take time.