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So, I just found the "category" I fit in. That would be Bigender. I've been looking stuff up all night and I feel like this best covers what I feel. I keep reading people's recommendations about going to a local LGBTQ groups and such, and I looked it up and there is actually one around where I live. I was surprised because I live in a very small town. I was reading about it, and it seems really nice. I'm just scared...I really would like to go and check it out, but I don't think I could mentally. I'm having a mini panic attack just thinking about it. I don't feel like I would fit in there. I'm quite the confused individual. I don't think I know about these topics, nor myself to be able to face that. On top of that I have a general fear of people, and I will probably be interacted with at some point. I'm just very scared and I don't know what to do. The other problem would be getting my parents to take me since I can't drive. Just thinking about all this is messing with my mind, but if I don't think about it, it bothers me till I get really depressed.
Also, on the topic of Bigender. Is there anyone here who is bigender? Could you give me some "tips"? I would like to be able to be my more masculine self in public/social situations. I'm physically female, and people seeing a girl in "mens" clothing often pass it off as nothing. I don't know what I'm doing and I was wondering if I could get some help.
I'm sorry if this has been very confusing to read. I'm having trouble putting what I mean into words.
Also, on the topic of Bigender. Is there anyone here who is bigender? Could you give me some "tips"? I would like to be able to be my more masculine self in public/social situations. I'm physically female, and people seeing a girl in "mens" clothing often pass it off as nothing. I don't know what I'm doing and I was wondering if I could get some help.
I'm sorry if this has been very confusing to read. I'm having trouble putting what I mean into words.
I dot not consider myself bigender yet I am technically bigender as I have secondary masculine characteristics but female primary characteristics. That is to say, I appear male but I have a female body.
But I can suggest to you that maybe it would be helpful if you were to seek a gender therapist to address your anxiety and depression, to begin with and get all the other stuff sort out for you, such as your social phobia among others.
I can tell you from experience that anxiety is primarily caused by permutational thinking, that is one thought leads to another and begets an even worst thought, for clues, reread your own post and you'll see what I am saying.
One thing you can do is to stop it before it starts, saying things like "I don't think I'll be able to" or "I don't feel like I can.." will create anxious thoughts and it can mushroom like wild fire. I've been there and I had to work on this relentlessly.
The fact of the matter is that many of the thoughts I have entertained in my anxiety stupor never actually took place. It is good to be cautious and careful but it does not help to imagine things that may or may not happen, do you see what I mean?
So I said initially, you could talk to a therapist and then go to a LGBT meeting and go from there.
Hope this helps,
Wolf