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I'm curious whether other transgender couples experience this...
I am dating a transgender female to male. I've been best friends with my boyfriend for about 8 years. I've found that I've always had a thing for girls but always dated guys because I was too afraid to venture down that path, not knowing how my family or friends would react. Within the past year I've done things with girls and have never felt so comfortable before! I developed feeling for my best friend before he decide to start his transition to male. I finally had the guts to tell him but the timing wasn't right with everything he had going on with the initial steps of his transition. I helped figure out his new name, I went to therapy sessions with him, and was there on his low days. About four months ago we were talking about relationships and how he thought no one would ever like him or accept him. I finally told him how I felt. Even though he is transitioning to male those feelings are still there. I came out to my parents about being bisexual and it did not go well. My mother feels I am sinning in God's eyes because my boyfriend still has female parts. He was never a feminine girl so when he told me of his decision to be male I wasn't surprised. I am very open minded and I have no issue with my decision to be with him. I was asked to find another place to live and was told I would never be accepted. My mom hasn't talked to me much and is very uncomfortable with my choice. I have been in contact with my dad and he treats me no different. My boyfriend and I hate labels but we view ourselves as a straight couple. Doesn't that make sense?
I am dating a transgender female to male. I've been best friends with my boyfriend for about 8 years. I've found that I've always had a thing for girls but always dated guys because I was too afraid to venture down that path, not knowing how my family or friends would react. Within the past year I've done things with girls and have never felt so comfortable before! I developed feeling for my best friend before he decide to start his transition to male. I finally had the guts to tell him but the timing wasn't right with everything he had going on with the initial steps of his transition. I helped figure out his new name, I went to therapy sessions with him, and was there on his low days. About four months ago we were talking about relationships and how he thought no one would ever like him or accept him. I finally told him how I felt. Even though he is transitioning to male those feelings are still there. I came out to my parents about being bisexual and it did not go well. My mother feels I am sinning in God's eyes because my boyfriend still has female parts. He was never a feminine girl so when he told me of his decision to be male I wasn't surprised. I am very open minded and I have no issue with my decision to be with him. I was asked to find another place to live and was told I would never be accepted. My mom hasn't talked to me much and is very uncomfortable with my choice. I have been in contact with my dad and he treats me no different. My boyfriend and I hate labels but we view ourselves as a straight couple. Doesn't that make sense?
So i think i understand your situation: your boyfriend is transitioning and your parents are anti-lgbt, correct? Of not the stop here off so continue on
It seams that the problem you have is that your parents aren't smelting your choice, because it is a sin, i believe the Bible relates sleeping with the same "gender" (i know she is going to he) to sleeping with an animal however there are the seven DEADLY sins like gluttony and greed, envy,.. And so on that's all i have top say on this topic
PS: if it seams like a little bit of a rant that's because my family is huge on fallow the Bible, yet they host pot luck which greedily feeds off of the gluttony of the church goers,
Anyways i hope things work out between you two
There are so many other things I could be doing in the world that are far worse! I'm a good person it's not like I'm a felon or get into trouble! I'm finally choosing to be with someone who makes me happy and I'm finally being myself. I could only hope that my children one day can say the same.
Cyndysub: I really wish people would stop using religion to try to justify things! It's very frustrating!!
My experience with religion is, if we aint straight, then they want us all dead. And its extremely rare to come across religious folks who really are progressive and won't shove religion down your throat, and how your going to hell, etc.
You want my advice? Stay away from organized religon. If you want to believe in a higher power, thats ok, but do it on your own, away from people who wish to harm you, and make you feel like the anti christ, when its actually them, who are the anti christ.
I know I came on a little strong, but I am just telling it like it is. Nothing good ever came from me going to church, I suffered, both mentally and physically.