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Hi to all of you singles out there who are in search of someone special.All girls and boys are invited to this group. There is a request that please don't make use of any vulgarity.
Let's just say that I eventually get into a serious relationship with a girl. Is it a turnoff that I've never been in a relationship before, or do girls don't care. I don't want to lie about it, I know doing that will be the worst thing I can do, nor do I want to tell the truth because I'm embarrassed. Obviously, she'll want to know about my previous relationships; but what do I say?
standbyme
don't worry about being upfront about your relationship status. It would actually make you look much better than if you say that you've been with a lot of girls. A good woman will appreciate this about you. Just be honest :D
mas5707
Yeah I know honesty is the best thing, lying would make things much worse. I just don't want her to think that there is something wrong with me because I never been in a relationship. I don't know what to say that won't make her think negatively of me. Once people get to know me I really open up and then my true colors come up.
ladyleo
i'm still not sure if my first was also his first. WOuld be nice to know the truth.
deleted_user
Be honest. That's the best thing you can do. Plus, from my point of view, I wouldn't care if a guy was never in a relationship before. I'VE never been in a relationship before either, so I know where you are coming from. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me :)
JasmineRenee
I think it's cool that you are careful, and have the good sense and self control not to hook up with a bunch of girls. I know from personal experience that hormones (as opposed to true love) is totally blind to red flags such as if the man is a pig....but if you can build a relationship based on honesty and appreciation for who the person is inside, then you could be on your way to the real deal!
deleted_user
I think that is wonderful so hey go on out and try to make a friendship where ever it leads is up to you and god..LOl God bless!
deleted_user
Well, as long as you act like a gentleman,it doesn't matter if you've had 0 or 10 past girlfriends. I see plently of boys, and girls, who are terrible with relationships even though they've had tons of them in the past. I've also seen people who have never dated find someone and be the best partner to them possible. I think it all just comes down to what kind of person you are and how you treat people. :)
deleted_user
The truth. If you haven't been in relationships before there is bound to be a reason, choice or something out of your control. Best to be up front and let her know the truth. By the way,mas. Some of those ladies just might look gorgeous , but on the inside they are like wormwood when it comes to being somebody who is fun to be with. And ladies, the same is true about us guys. But, mas, be up front and tell her the truth. Everybody who has been in a relationship has seen a day when they never were in a relationship. You are just starting late. Maybe that means you are a virgin. That is something some women really like. Don't try to make yourself be differrent from who you really are in this area. The truth will catch up to you and that can be in the form of admitting a lie. That would be deception and nobody likes deception if they are decent human beings. Good luck.
shelle68
It doesn't make a difference to me.
standbyme
It's a turn off only to the type of girl who's looking for a player and not a gentleman. I haven't been with anyone yet either so being with a 'love-shy' guy is something I would be very comfortable with. Continue to have the courage to be yourself. Keep your heart open for that lucky lovely lady to find her way in.
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