Next Christmas, I will do what I want to do.... not get pulled into Family of Origin Issues, and feel hurt by my two ES's ignoring us and not replying to our emails. I stopped in yesterday on the way to my parents' Christmas Dinner to see my Aunt and Uncle who were all alone on Christmas Day, as their kids ignore them. Then my brother blasted me because why do I bother with that so and so, etc. etc. and he was mean to our Dad, (his brother). Really - I am so tired of being the flipping scapegoat in the family - only in my FOO would I be considered to be showing off and doing the wrong thing by visiting my 81 year old uncle who won't even be around in all likelihood next Christmas and my aunt, who has short term memory loss and is his caregiver. Next year I will be selfish and do what I want to do, which is be as far away from the "festivities" as possible. It was a crappy day already as our kids have cut us out of their lives with no explanation. This family is getting sicker and sicker - I have to detach and work on my self and be happy and move forward.