When my children were small, I used to think for them (like moms do). One day, as they were getting ready to leave for school, I told my son to put on his jersey, because it felt cold outside. He then asked me: "Mommy, is that a "have to" or a "want to"? I was stunned, but then I clicked what he meant, and I decided to let him make his own choice. So I answered: "It's a 'want to'". Somehow this memory has always stayed with me, and I realized the truth of it. When I have to do something, I automatically hate doing it. But when it is my choice, I love doing it, and will do my best. This is especially relevant in my current situation of being the only caregiver to my Down Syndrome daughter. People have often suggested that I put her in a home or some institution, where she will get full time care. But I love her very much, and I want to take care of her myself! I don't mind all the difficulties I'm going through. Actually I feel good knowing that I'm doing the best I can for her! Her health is deteriorating, and I get very little sleep. But I love doing what I'm doing, because it is my choice to do it!