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Watching netflix movie, Ring the Bell.. Just have to share. First few lines: Self absorbed wealthy 30 something's secretary tells him all his phone messages. And your mother called,she says. Are you going to call her back? Later, he says. She asks him how old is your mother?
Oh 70-75. So she says, Well then, by all means take your time.
I thought it was funny anyway.
Oh 70-75. So she says, Well then, by all means take your time.
I thought it was funny anyway.
Good line in the movie, too. I don't watch movies often, so am glad to feel like i'm in a loop o' knowledge about something current! LOL!
All i know is that even tho' my mother & i can't be in the same room anymore or have any kind of conversation, it took me all of 30 secs. in 2014 to sign various cards taken to her by my sister. At her place, my mother wants all to think all is "well", and they know she has two daughters, so i sign in order to aid in her "keeping up appearances". I know it means something to her...when she chats on her fantasy family to others, and i'm not there to hear the lies anymore..so what the heck? Why be mean to an old gal who may be a complete psycho bad ass bitch who hates me and has made me not like her very much either, but who DID provide me with life...i AM grateful none of the beatings KILLED me...and she could make a mean spagetti...LOL...
NOTHING ANY of the parents of all of the parents i've read on all of the boards i've seen...all of the posts popping up in totally unrelated things...has led to any in any way 'deserving' the treatment we've been dealt by our mean spirited, ungrateful, self deluded offspring.
They have not one clue as to the meaning of the word "loyalty", let alone "ancestors", let alone "clan" , let alone "karma".
Criminals! If these brats of ours were to get locked up for their crimes against humanity in general, let alone "elder" AND "child" abuse, they would be dead in a week. MURDERERS & RAPISTS are higher up on the prison pecking order than our own offspring, and THEY think they're doing something "good" for themselves or their families/children?!?
Twisted. That's my "bottom line, stop thinking about "them", move on to more constructive things" word. Whenever i start thing of my ES now, i just think, "twisted". & then i say a lil' prayer that the children rebel in the future and don't carry on this "generational curse". Or at least may their children never do it to them.
Elder abuse. Child abuse. Sibling abuse. Carer abuse. Those are the crimes our estrangers are guilty of, in the end. & yeah...self mutilations, as well.
& in many of our cases, if we wanted to, we could present a bill for all of the $$$ they fleeced us for from the moment they became legally legal.
Fraud. They defrauded us.
I'm just glad i lived to see all of this play out. If the cancer would've gotten me, & some angel showed me it's i-whatever screen to see that this was going to happen had i lived, i would have WANTED to die! I knew my ES and i didn't have the closest relationship...his choosing...but i never would've have bet he would A. breed with such an obvious nutcase or B. totally disconnect from not only me, but his brother!, aunt, cousin and his family, etc. ALL of "us" "maternal siders".
& 2 be such a user and liar!
Twisted.
TY for y'all, sharing strengths as you do, as now i can pretty much say i've survived both stage 4 head cancer, AND multiple "estrangements", and it's only cause o' y'all cyber angel spiders on the webz!
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Patti, Who's the 70 and at work you are referring to?? That would be me.. and I'll probably be 90 and at work, too!
We'll all be working till we keel over. Urghh!
Raised those five kids as a single stay at-home mom. Did all kinds of creative things to keep the ship afloat but was not on the track to the glass ceiling or a retirement plan with any company. Gave away my best earning power to make sure my kids had the best. We lived in good neighborhoods where they would mingle with good kids, I went to all their soccer games, school trips, helped at their schools, was waiting at home for them when they came home, no lost latch key kids, with the exception of very little time they never went to day care, I spent every cent I had fighting for their safety and their rights when I figured out their father was abusing them when he took me to court with the intention of litigating all my money away. Those were my values then. But now I wonder if any of it mattered and I wish I had been more selfish. Wished I had spoken out more about the truth about the people who were undermining me. But then I was not as aware as I am today. So that is what is.
I'll be working til I keel over.