TeenDS: Teen LGBTQ Issues Support Group

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Trippie.K 04/05/2018

There this boy that I like. He isn't that cute but I love his personality and how he puts himself together. He a Christian and he so innocent he doesn't even have a phone yet and we both in 9th grade. But I get vibes from all the time like I'll catch him just staring at me and when I look at him just keeps staring and he always trying to get me to laugh which he achieves every time (never laughed so much in my life). But I feel like I should stop liking him because everyone says straight and you don't have a chance. So I have been trying to get over him and just to be his friend instead. But idk what too. Should I try to be with him or just be his friend. Help please. (P.S. I get bad anxiety when try to talk to boys in any type of flirty way because I been bullied all through middle school and so I'm insecure and not found of my body.)

confusous 04/30/2018

I think if u like him and he makes u happy then u should go for it! And u guys r already friends right so just be urself and don't be shy. But of course that's just me! Do what u think is best I guess

allboxedin 04/30/2018

Dear Trippie K...it seems as though your thoughts vary from being with this boy to just hanging out innocently with him. I tell you...just try to be his friend. If he wants to pursue you ok but don't encourage it or it may backfire (he may like you or he may not...in the way you'd like). Anyway...sounds as though you're maybe a bit shy around boys! That's normal...with more time with them it'll settle down these anxiety flare ups you're having. Go to your school counselor (if still in school) to get advice from and seek close, trustworthy friend's suggestion's. If you are a victim of bullying...don't stand for it, tell someone your situation and keep telling people until your get necessary help from them. IT'S UP TO YOU TO HELP STOP THIS BULLYING PROBLEM! Insecurities are a normal reaction to anxiousness, so try to not give much thought as to how bad things might seem...they're just temporary Instead, stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself, "I am uniquely made and beautiful in the eyes of Jesus. He loves me, and can battle all my insecure feelings for me. I mustn't be fearful. He made me so everything about me (my body) is perfectly made". Meanwhile, pretend Jesus is always next to you ALL THE TIME cause he really is concerned for you and wants to hear how much you need him close by to share your thought's with him. Talk to him about your worries...especially your circumstances with this boy and he'll tell you what to do. Place your complete trust in him, OK? God is fond of you so why not be fond of him since, after all, he created you! Good luck!

Trippie.K 05/15/2018

Thank you @allboxedin and @confusous what you said help me a lot.

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