Teen Sexuality Support Group

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RylieMichelle 07/12/2012

So, my boyfriend... or ex... or whatever he is, and I have kinda been... fooling around since he's gotten back from the hospital, and after I got back from illinois. We havent done much, not ever had sex, but gotten pretty close. Im a little scared though to keep going with him. He's the same age as me, but he's had sex with his ex girlfriend a few times, and Im still a virgin. Ive wanted to go further with him, Ive just been scared that it'll hurt. We almost went all the way once, but he couldnt get it in, because I was so in pain that I made him stop. Of course he did and we just cuddled for a while. We've tried multiple times, but the same thing's happened. He said he's never had sex with any girl so tight, and Im not quite sure what to do. we've talked about it and he said he wont make me do anything that hurt or made me uncomfortable. I want to keep going, but it hurts so bad that it just makes him uncomfortable that Im so in pain. He doesnt want to do something to me that'd hurt me as bad as it is.
What should we do?

deleted_user 07/12/2012

I'm no expert, but from what I understand (and I'm sure some people here will be able to explain it further), you might need to either work at it more to be more aroused and wet, or you could try lubricants. Have him work on loosening you up with his fingers first.

deleted_user 07/12/2012

I am so confused. Do some guys not fit in you?? How come?? I'm only 14 and pretty new to actually knowing more about it and jokes about it and questions about it so yeah.

deleted_user 07/12/2012

@kittykatzzz ur vagina is a muscle and it streches some will hurt more than others but if u r ready any guy will fit.

n rylie it is normal for it to hurt at first n from what u r saying u r really nervouse n this isnt a good thing u need to be relaxed n comfortable this will also contribute to u bing more aroused n therefor u will be wetter also like Genjator said get him to finger u first to loosen u up abit.

also make sure u use condoms n all that stuff :P

RylieMichelle 07/12/2012

He has fingered me, and stuff like that, but its just when i think about him going into me, i freak.

deleted_user 07/13/2012

Then it sounds like you're just super nervous. Finding out what is making you nervous would be the best first step.

deleted_user 07/17/2012

Hello Rylie I can understand you being curious and wanted to experience your first time with someone that you're comfortable with but it sounds like you're ready in your mind but your body isn't- which is okay. Maybe you need some more time- losing your virginity is a big decision and you don't want to rush yourself. Like somebody else said the vagina is a muscle and if your body is tense then it's makes it very difficult to have sex because everything tightens up. Maybe you guys should think about figuring out your relationship first? If you choose not to and move forward please make sure you protect yourself from pregnancy and STI's.

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