An survey done last year revealed that while 80% of 16-17 year olds in a particular school told each other they were having sex, when the survey was done totally anonymously, less than half that actually were. You are not alone.

Please don't be in a hurry to loose it. I've spoken with so many people who took the first opportunity to have sex that they could and many regretted it afterwards.

What is it makes you want to go down on anyone you find attractive? What would it be like for you to say "no"?

Yes, you're right, it may bleed the first time you have sex as the hymen would be broken then. However, it may already have been broken through normal day-to-day activity or other sexual activity, in which case you may not bleed.

Many men do "like virgins", though, all too often, in the wrong way: as a notch for their bedpost, so to speak. However, many would prefer their long-term partner to be a virgin.

Maybe this is more about you and how you see yourself than it is about whether or not you have performed a particular sex act. I wonder how you see yourself and how you feel people would see you if they knew the "real" you?

funny, we all lie that were virgins, or youre a complete slag.

if you 'just want it done', youre not ready. i was like you, i wish i waited for a real relationship.
if you bleed it could just mean he was rough. i didnt bleed my first time, not everyone does

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as a side note: the reason i did so much shit is because i have low self esteem and it links to that. think about why you are so eager to give it away. its not normal to fool about so much, think and work on yourself please, for your own good.

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When I was a kid I wrote a journal as if I was 80 yrs old. I told the story of my life a I hope it will be. Think about you in the future. Maybe that will help you put you life now, as a teen, into some perspective.

where i live so many people lie saying they are virgins its a shame to have sex.

but i wouldn't rush to lose it sex is a beautiful thing when done with the right person.

and if being a virgin is such a shame then nothing wrong with hiding it just don't go around trashing your name by saying things like "oh i've had sex with this many people" i just try to advoid the subject

I'm a virgin and I'm damn proud of it. I've never even kissed someone (aside from a rare friendly peck), and I'm not ashamed to admit it. For me, any physical contact is highly personal, and not just anybody can touch me. It shouldn't be shameful or humiliating. And "just want to get it done" shows that you're not ready. Your virginity isn't something you can get back. It's gone forever. While I believe it's every person's right to decide when and to whom they'll lose their viginity, (and people shouldn't be judged for it), just make sure that when you look back on this, that in your hurry to join the sexually active group, you don't lose your self-respect along with your virginity to a nobody who doesn't deserve you. Good luck.

I think you have dug yourself a deep hole, and sometimes the only way out is the truth, dont rush into sex, but maybe you could keep your sexual history or whatever private for now, because then your not lying, your just not saying anything e.g.
Oh have you had sex yet? >> your response could be 'no comment' because even if its said playfully, people can take what they like but cant complain either way :) x