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Im so confused

mcbean333
mcbean333

I'm a 15 year old girl who is hoping to be transitioning soon to a guy but i am really confused about my sexuality. I feel like i should know by know what gender, if any, i orientate towards to. When i was younger i new i was into guys and i had no doubts, but now i keep having these feelings towards girls too and i wonder if they like me too. But the thing is im not really into having relationships, especially long term ones, and i dont like commitment -even just small teenage teenage relationships dont appeal to me. Im so puzzled and i dont even know if my feelings are legitamet towards anyone. I agree that lables arent good but it would really help to understand who i am. Sorry if i didnt make sense.

MissAlly
MissAlly
Well I am no expert here but i feel that i go through simillar problems. For one , i dont know if i only like guys. Secondly , i too dont feel that strongly for long term relationships. The question here is , has there been any event/events in your life that might have encouraged you to form such an attitude towards life ?
And something that i tell myself to sleep better at night. When the time is right i will know. Give it time , or let it be. Also you dont need to know someone gender to love them. Love transcends all , so should your thinking..
mcbean333
mcbean333
Thanks MissAlly I really appreciate your help. I totally agree with what your saying, but what if someone asks me what gender I orientate to? should I just say I don't know?
MissAlly
MissAlly
You could be real philosophical and say that you are in a journey of self discovery and gender is yet another tag you dont want to tie yourself to. Besides i dont think there is anythi g wrong with being honest about it. You dont know, you are trying to find out. That way better than stating a gender and then realising that you have made a mistake.