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I have a friend who says that she is not gay. We have been having sex, such as fingering and oral, but she still says she doesn't like me. She does get turned on by lesbian porn and when I say things like, "You are my good girl" during sex. I have told her I like her but she claims she doesn't like me. I don't believe she can be straight, she may be bisexual or just curious. I want her to know it is ok and that if she would just go with it we would have a better time. How can I tell her I think she may be interested? She always gets upset if she thinks she may be bisexual. Is it possible that she really isn't bisexual or curious and she just likes the sex?
deleted_user
I think you need to back away from her until she has herself figured out. She is obviously confused by her sexuality, and having sex with her before she knows what she is isnt a good idea. She needs some time to herself, but let her know you are still here for her. But please try not to involve yourself sexually for her own good.
brokenone1
i tried backing away fro a bit. but we are really close friends and she helps me with not cutting. theres no way we cant b friends. anyother suggestions?
deleted_user
why cant you be friends without sex. back away from anything sexual and intimate and just be friends.
brokenone1
thanks ill try that.do you think theres a way i can tell her i think she likes me without making things akward or making her sad?
deleted_user
Wait a bit before you ask her that. Once she gets things figured she will know. It will save both of you frustration and pain.
HONESTYis
I think things are usually awkward when confronting ones feelings, at least for most people. I think that may push her too far and she may feel like you're trying to tell her how she thinks, which I think most people hate. Just let her know you can't be there for her sexually, but you still hope to remain good friends.
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