don't think you were at all. drama has been high there and i've worried about a newcomer stumbling into that who desperately needs the support....

Yeah, that's just being honest. If the truth is offensive to people I wouldn't worry about it. I know I don't....
To be honest I haven't been worrying too much about new people coming in, and seeing all the garbage people have posted that is very anti productive, and I know that's probably something I should think about more. My thoughts have been on finding reasons for myself to stay here on DS because I've found many times that the reasons I started coming to this site have not always been there, and they've been gone more and more. I think I've finally come to the realization that the Good will always out last the bad in the end. It's just about waiting the drama out until it's finally passed through the board and has run it's course. A lot of times I just don't have the strength to deal with a support group that is suppose to give me strength not take it away. I'm happy to say though that it doesn't do that most of the time. It's just every once in a while. Which is the exact opposite of the rest of my life. Everything else in my life is usually completely drama filled and exhausting, but every once in a while can be encouraging. The CP board is the exact opposite, and so I guess I can't complain too much. It sill is and always has been the best support I've had outside my Father, wife and kids.

The best way to deal with the drama is not to post, reply or acknowledge it in any way. When we do we add to it. It is human nature to want to try to make something right, explain something away, or put in our 2 cents worth.
If everyone here, that is a member of this board would never respond to anything that gets started over there,
it wouldn't have any fuel for the fire because there aren't many who aren't members here.

That would be our solution, our way of making it a better place for new people, because like Jan says, when you google Chronic pain, you won't get this group. This group is harder to find.

I agree that we need to spend some time on the main board to welcome the newcomer. The newbie can't find us in the smaller, private groups. The main board need YOU!!!!!

there's nothing wrong post to on both boards, i sometimes go and answer prayers needed or new people need welcome i rember when i first got here how good it was to get that support even if im hurting love hugs mi9nnie

i think i take your point Jc.
makin the effort to be a counterpoint to the(occasional....ish?) drama on the big board.
like actually GOING ON there and being rationale, reasonable,helpful and compassionate.
so new people wont get freaked out by the frog and that lady makin the giant stirfrye.
THOSE two.......and like that. yeah.....i gocha there.
nah though.
you go'head.
not my effin BAG man.
wow................i really need to sleep more.
you, Jc, as always(cept when your wack) humble me with your toughness, your true compassion
and your willingness to give so much of yourself for the sake of others.
and i am always and forever grateful for your friendship.
you rock Lady
i loveyou
PEACE
t

i haven't checked the big board in sooooooooo long! i come here and the sarcoidosis group most often.

it would be great to have some faces , this group has so much support and careing

All of you make good points. Many of us who were here when this board started know and remember what the big board was like, and how it can be. I know that many people share the feelings that this room is a safe haven from the bigger room. I think that "s#%t rolls downhill...if the foundation of a room is made up of caring, sensitive, reasonable people.....any new comers will usually follow in line. There are always the odd duck or stick in the mud whenever this many people come together. Regardless of who or what comes in here...this room will always be a safe place for us. None of us "oldies" will allow hate, drama and uglieness to take root here. Much love to you all.