I've been feeling the same way. I've been thinking for a while that I was scared to have another baby and not sure that I wanted one, but the past few days, alls I think about is having another baby. I'm not sure if there will ever be a right time. I think lately I'm just missing Lindsey a lot, she's supposed to be here. I feel bad especially for Emma, she was such a good big sister, and she craves companionship with other children. I definetely know how you are feeling.

We had another baby.
Marissa was born 5 days after Nick's first angel day. Before we began trying, I had to get my head in more of a decent place. I had to ask myself do I just want another baby, or am I trying to get my Nick back? If it was the second choice, I knew I was not ready. To be honest for a while it was the second choice. Of course it was, because we are human and we miss them so much. Once the reality hit that Nick was gone and I could have 10 babies that wouldn't be him because he wasn't coming back...that really hurt but it was an eye opener too. Once that reality hit me, I hit rock bottom and slowly crawled out of that hole determinded that I wanted another baby, took some persuasing the hubby that yes, we could do this. It wasn't to replace Nick, it was to bring joy back into our lives, we needed happy back. We needed that little girl more than we knew at the time. Having her does not erase the pain of losing Nick, sometimes it makes missing him that much worse, but it was a new beginning. Along with all of this was the pregnancy that seemed like every thing that could have gone wrong did. I had placenta previa, a good friend another angel mommy micarried right at the beginning of her second trimester, was having blood pressure issues hubby's job security went out the window, we were faced with him being unemployed weeks before Marissa was due and the extreme fear that something was going to go wrong quickly without warning and she'd be gone too.

Marissa is not Nick, not a replacement. Marissa is like our rainbow after a bad storm.

A SIDS mom who was many years into grief asked me one day that if I had a do-over with Nick, but this time knowing ahead of time we would only have him 50 days, would I still have done it.....

The first time she asked that, my thoughts were HELL NO, this hurts too much. As time went on, it became HELL YEAH! For 50 days I had the perfect life, 3 perfect boys here on earth. Since then, my idea of perfection has changed, perfect is what you percieve it to be...there is no such thing as PERFECT.

Some mommies here could not wait to have another baby, while others have waited a year or more. I don't think there is a right or wrong on this. IMO if you wait 5 weeks, 5 months or 5 years, the fears will still be there, people will say it is too soon. You need to do what is best for you on this, follow your heart. HUGS

I know that one day I do...but my fear is much greater than my faith is right now. I feel like that my head is not ready and that I would be almost "replacing" my Audrey. My hubby and I are going to go trhough genetic testing and then talk about it. Audrey was my only too...so I hate it b/c being a monmmy was the greatest joy in my life. Now, i know that technically i am a mommy...but I don't feel like it day in and day out. I think that it is totally a personal choice...and a totally hard one...and one that I am not mentally able to even fathom right now. But, i certainly hope that I have the love of another baby one day.

I have been trying, with no luck!!! Well most of you know that already...send me some baby dust please!

I think that this time is different for everyone. We started trying 3 months after Joey passed just to suffer another loss - miscarriage at 12 weeks. But now we are expecting a baby girl in Nov. Am I still scared - absolutely and the fear is very much real. But I know that my husband and I want another baby. My arms and heart ache to hold another baby. I know that I will never replace Joey. I was just so ready to have another baby around. Just take your time and do what is right for your family. I think I feared what people would think of me too. Would they think it was too soon? Then I realized it doesnt matter what they think. Unless they have experienced the same loss they have no right to judge you on anything. Good luck honey!

Tim and I decided to try again 3 months after our only son Leify passed away on October 18, 2008. We miss being parents so badly, and we know we can't replace Leify but we also believe becoming parents again will help heal our hearts. Thank god we were able to get pregnant the first month we tried and now I'm at 31 weeks. For some people this would be too soon to have another baby but for Tim and I it couldn't come soon enough.

I don't think the number of kids has any effect on wanting another child, not to replace, but to help try and fill that "mommy" void....I have 4 other kids beside colin and we said we were done. My husband even went so far as to get a vasectomy 3 days before colin died. I think it must be completely normal and ok to want to share your life and love with another child. It's only been 3 1/2 weeks and I would love to try again, but unfortunately may not even be possible. Make sue you and you husband are both on board because we all know the last stress we need is to argue with or resent our spouse right now.

My husband and I conceived two months after Colton passed away. I am now in my 18th week and everything looks good. I still have MANY fears and I am always waiting for bad news from the doctor or blood when I go to the bathroom. I'm not sure how I am going to be able to sleep at night when she gets here. As scary as it is I know that it is right and my husband and I are both excited about "baby stuff" again. You will know when it is right for you. Unfortunately I am turning 35 this November so my clock is a tickin'. We were lucky that it happened so quickly. It took us two years to bring Colton here - only to hold him for 4 months and 5 days.

Id say go for it! I dont think there is ever a perfect or right time to try for another baby. Our angels will always be missed and loved. The love youll have towards a new baby is wonderful and indescribable. Wishing you luck, hun!