Stuttering Support Group

Stuttering is a speech disorder in which the flow of speech is disrupted by prolongations, repetitions, and blocks of sounds, syllables, words or phrases. Give advice, share your story, and find any support you might need here.

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deleted_user 01/16/2011

My stammer has been with me all of my life , it has dictated to me the paths in my life, paths where i really have never wanted to go, It has stopped my doing my dream vocation, it has ruined numerous relationships, it has made me totally insecure in any life situation i encounter. There is a personality in me just screaming to get out, but it is kept under lock and key , its like having the gift of writng the best novel in the world but no pen to write it with. I have tried all my life to tackle it, deal with it live around it , but it has constantly dominated my every second and at this stage in my life has finally worn me down. I'm not being defeatist here as much as it may sound, just being realistic. I'm tired of revoling my entire life around this beast of a disability ...i'm tired.just tired of the total grip it has had on me.....

deleted_user 01/17/2011

Perhaps because of my character and previous career as a nurse I have always treated each person as an individual. I have met people across the spectrum of humanity; rich to poor, athletic to severely physically or mentally disabled.
However, it was until I developed a stutter in my late 40's did I really appreciate the attitude of others.Although the stutter bothers me the real problem is other people attitude; the looks on their face when I stutter, finishing my sentence for me or just the look on their faces.

deleted_user 01/17/2011

Yes I see exactly what you mean. It has totally frustrated me all my life, but the response of other people when i talk has always been an issue.
How did the stammer come at 40?, I have never heard that before unless there was some kind of trauma in your life.

deleted_user 02/02/2011

I totally understand. I feel like my brain wont let me say what I want to say. I am a completely vocal person with strong opinions and I love to do things like debates and acting, but I can't. Whenever I try to read in front of the class, or raise my hand to answer a question I simply can't bring myself to do it because I know i will stutter and I know people will laugh at me. I'm not gonna say my stuttering is bad, because compared to others, its not. Throughout the years I have learned to hide it, but only at the expense of not saying things that I want to say. I appear to be a confident outspoken person, but people don't see me for who I am. I act like my stuttering doesn't bother me, but it kills me inside. I feel like I'm trapped in my own body and I don't know how to deal with it sometimes.

Banjochick 02/15/2011

A few years ago, I saw a program on tv about stuttering. A doctor gave a patient an implant of some kind and it would make some type of low noise in his ear. With the implant in, he stopped stuttering. Without the implant, his stuttering was bad. It was amazing to watch, this was not a ficticious show. As long as he heard this "noise" from the implant, he spoke normal. Maybe if you do a search on the computer, you can find this information. It probably is expensive, but certainly worth checking into. Good Luck.

deleted_user 05/11/2011

I hear you! My life exactly, for most my life, the stammering, the rejection, the looks on others faces, pity, anger, and confusion.

I have heard about that implant thing too, and a hearing aid like device which feeds noise into ear.

deleted_user 05/23/2011

I hear you. I feel the same way. I'm 21 and feel like I'm years behind a lot of my friends. I've never had a relationship, as I'm terrified of meeting new people and having to talk to them. I'm an artist and the only career paths (until I become able to live off my paintings, if at all), is teaching or curatorial work, both involve copious amounts of speaking. I feel held back by my speech, limited, a little helpless.

Thank you so much for posting this. I'm so glad that there's others who are in the same boat as I am.

deleted_user 07/27/2011

hello, urs seems bad, mine is mild, (depends on situation)

i notice, when I stutter, I tend to want to instead use sign language. I dunno, maybe learning sign language , pretending to be mute would give us the liberty ?

I do know I stutter during situations like job interviews. Damn I really hate it.

but i'm glad to know you people

deleted_user 01/28/2012

This is exactly how I feel too. I would even use the same words you did. I feel like I'm in prison. Been very depressed last few months. It is not fair. I know how you feel. It sucks.

mamasam27 04/26/2017

Its like you're speaking my mind.stammering has holding me back I lost many opportunities because of it. I have know decided to even change my carrier because the carrier I was in didn't let me to foward. I hope with this new carrier I will improve my life, May God help us all and bring miracle to cure out stuttering.

sgreen 08/06/2018

hi I feel a little relieved seeing that there is also other people stuttering that I'm not the only one , b'h I'm not a severe stutterer but I have times when I stutter much more often and very bad, these times are so embarrassing I feel so stuck and helpless . I hold myself back of saying certain things because its too hard for me to bear the pain and embarrassment .
do you have any advice?

BrandonU 12/07/2018

Hi im a stutterer too but i mainly get blocks or repeat a word sometimes it sucks

BrandonU 12/07/2018

And i feel like sometimes people think your less intelligent cuz the way you talk. I feel like i cant fully express myself cuz im afraid of stuttering or getting blocks in front of people

Prycejosh1987 10/28/2020

The most important thing you can do is love yourself and accept your flaws when it comes to stuttering and insecurities and etc.

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