Having recently joined this group made me put all that happened to me on Facebook for others to see. Just the act of doing this has lifted me. I am in a position that I cannot get justice - but that's ok, my experience may help others...

I suggest that you record what is happening on Facebook it may shame the bully, give you an outlet for your pent up feelings. One thing that I firmly believe is that you cannot back down from a bully - once you do you will be doing it for the rest of your life. I thought I wasn't ill, thought I could cope, 9 years in prison told me that I couldn't and no job is worth that! Don't end up like me mentally ill 20 years later still...

Why don't you try a little sarcasm back to the individual - it is better to give than receive the bible says..but please remember - moderation in all things watch your back. Start looking for another job, or better still start recording what is happening with either a voice recorder or one of those cheap pen cameras you can get off Ebay - then either seek legal advise - go back to HR or leave and get another job and put it on Facebook or YouTube because he has probably done this to others and will do it again.

Don't do nothing please! you may think it cannot happen to you but stress leads to a sudden inability to cope and a fight flight reaction which is an animal instinct reaction once started your mind cannot stop! The courts see this as an excuse not a fact!

I find cameras so useful now - I have two in my car as a witness to what is happening and has already helped me in an accident to prove it was the other persons fault ,and they give you reassurance because you feel that you are taking back control and have a witness and are not alone.

Once you have proof, a legal letter of a threat to take legal action will have the quickest results. It is not the end of the world to loose your job - it is a chance for a new start and new challenges - but please be aware any change is also stressful - even having a holiday is high on the stress list as is moving house.

regards Adrian

Thanks.

I've been keeping a record. partly because I found out the hard way he will pick situations you have long since forgotten as there was no need to take an account of occurrences. And then lie cheat and deceive and try create trouble. And of course I could not provide an input as I have long since dismissed such accounts. So now I keep an account of everything potentially try and lie about and cause trouble. So I can turn around and say well actually I kept an account of that and it's completely different to the lies he has said.

I have been trying to do some detective work of my own. On the guys lack of ability. Looking for evidence. One reason behind why he does what he does. Second reason being him possibly made redundant as his and my job are pretty much identical aside from the updates he provides to management.

The inconsistent contradictory lies he tells. To the reports and documents he writes & various... Problem is there is no way to substantiate or validate this material on its own. The guy just creates more lies, deceit and misdirection and the web thickens like a spiders web.

Even when he sabotaged a piece of equipment to try and get leverage over me. Unfortunately the only way to prove it would be to have witnesses, or video footage, or lift finger prints of the reset function. None of which are options.

I have nothing concrete stand alone. And this guy is manipulative. Quickly disposing of any evidence that may expose him. He padded out a work folder with multiple identical copies of copies to make it look like he'd done lots of work. He has since disposed of that evidence.

I tend to be a fight and not flight. I know of what you speak. Keep a level head think before acting.

Horrible situation.

Like the tale of the scorpion asking the frog to carry him over the flooded water, the scorpion stings the frog half was across and the frog asks why? He has killed both of them - to which the scorpion says it is in his nature...

Don't try to understand why he acts as he does, just look after yourself.

Try to relax take a deep breath and hold it in for 5 seconds when he lies, be may be wanting a reaction so he can get you the sack.. Your boss may be very well aware of what is going on and is looking for an excuse to sack him, he is not an idiot..
So batten down the hatches and prepare for the worst, anything else is a bonus. All this will seem insignificant in 10 years time.

Best of luck - sounds like the boss is looking to keep the better person..YOU!

Regards Adrian

This has to be a very frustrating environment to work in. I would keep very detailed documentation on any and every incident. Also document every conversation with a superior on any incident.

I would also strongly caution you not to put any type of complaint about anyone in the company or the company itself on any social media site. This is always grounds for termination. You don't ever give this person the ammunition to use against you. If you are terminated, I would advise you to go to the labor board and file a formal complaint.

Every company has the obligation to ensure that every employee can work without harassment of any type in the work place. What this person is doing is harassment. The next time it becomes necessary for you to speak with your boss on this troublemaker's actions; you need to inform your boss that in the past, this troublemaker has come back to you and repeated their conversation and it has caused backlash from that troublemaker. There are some very serious consequences of your boss's actions here. Document, document, document.

And, if I were you, I'd start making an honest effort to move on to another company. This troublemaker suffers from some type of personality disorder and his constant retaliation should be addressed and not allowed. I would also advise that you to talk to your boss about filing a formal complaint of harassment against this troublemaker.

Thanks.

Stress is starting to get to me. Finding it hard to focus & concentrate.

This guy is unrelenting. He seems to be getting progressively worse. Trying to cause trouble and use trivial situations blow them out of context and proportion on a daily basis.

His insecurities are getting worse too. He seems to be telling more self super hero stories about himself that he tells are getting worse too. A mixture of lies and half truths. Taking yet again credit for other peoples work.

I'm going to evaluate my options carefully and refrain from making any premature decisions. I'm going to see what other work is out there. etc...

Wearing me down. I did not sign up to deal with a limited insecure individual constantly on my case stirring with any thing he can find or potentially use against me and blow out of context and proportion.

Thanks again