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I am trying to become a teacher. I have a friend who told me though that her ex boyfriend was smacking her around and that he was talking about me saying he fought me. This enraged me. Hes such a coward, he makes up lies about fighting girls and hits another. So i called him and told him exactly what i thought about him and told him hes too much of a coward to say anything to my face and he knows where i am if he thinks something about me and would like to say it. I was not very lady like in how i addressed my and others feelings about him. Little did i know hes a police informant. I called one time and left one message and he called the police and filed a report on me. I called the police officer who filed the report and we spoke and he told me he would not charge me and just to not to the kid or go near him. Now i am going to have to do a FBI criminal background check for school and have been literally physically sick worried this will show up. I was trying to do the right thing and i never thought i could get in trouble for trying to defend a person and myself. I have lost 7 pounds from thinking of this and am so nervous i can hardly contain the anxiety from making me have a complete meltdown. I am too depressed to leave the house and dont know if or how i can fix this.
Chalk it up to experience, and don't let your anger throw you into a tizzy, and you'll have learned something valuable from this experience which just may save your ass from a future, potentially worse, offense.
But I know how you feel. Once upon a time, I'd had enough of my abusive husbands lip and I cold clocked him. He had me arrested, not for fear of me, but as an exercise of his control. I was concerned that this would be an issue when I had a background check, too. It wasn't. And those charges were officially filed with the court, and then it was dismissed. It never surfaced on my BCI, because it's not on the radar. They aren't looking for what a person may have been accused of so much as what they have been found guilty of... hence, innocent until proven guilty.
IF this were to come up, which I really can't imagine it would, you'd have a chance to explain that you left a silly message in a moment of anger, one time, on the machine of an abusive man. But I seriously doubt that would happen.