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Question: Is My Brother Taking Advantage?

empx
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If your brother/sister lost their job as of no fault of their own. And you had to put them up in your house temporarily would you expect that person to work 12-16hr days for you 6 days a week refurbishing your entire house. (plastering, electrical work-entire house (first/second fix (all)), painting entire house Primer/main, refurbishing doors, frames, skirting, arcitrave, building/construction work, plumbing) etc.... and mush much more.


Added to this, cleaning up after him daily, washing all their dishes daily, hoover daily, tidying the house after them daily .... etc...


He could not aford to pay someone to do all the work I have done and continue to do. It seems he is trying to get as much out of me as possible.....


The people that I have spoken too have said that this is clearly taking advantage and taking the piss!



What do you think?????????????????????????????


Minidogs2
Minidogs2
he is clearly taking advantage of you. i would hope he had the attitude of wanting to help you during a tough time. even if he wanted you to do so since many hours of work instead of paying rent, it should be fair based on the cost of paying someone to do his work.
hopefully you get a good job and can move out soon. that's way too much pressure.
pd2012
pd2012
Well, apparently your brother has the funding to pay for the materials cost of his home improvement projects and let's face it, more projects can be finished when labor costs are not involved. Is he taking advantage, yes probably with the amount of hours each day. If I were you I would concentrate on finding a new job and move out as soon as you can. For now, unless there is no where else to go, you'll need to put up with your brother. I'd be very grateful to my brother but there comes a point where taking advantage is not a very brotherly thing to do either.
empx
empx
I have always been a person of high principle and integrity. And have always worked hard and put great effort into every thing. However I do not respond well to threats & aggression. Pulling my weight is all fine and true. The manner in which it is done with my brother. Treating me like an employee......

I have reached a point were I have had enough. Job searching is my priority.... and not his house that he seems to have prioritised above all else......
pd2012
pd2012
I certainly can't blame you for feeling the way you do. It was gracious of him to allow you to stay but to take advantage is something else. It is what it is but I would keep this in mind in the future. I'm sure you'll be back on your feet soon and when your brother calls out for help on another project, I'd be busy.
empx
empx
Yep. That's within the plan. Settle any out standings. And sever ties with family in due course. The only person you can truly rely on is your self...........
empx
empx
He's getting progressively worse..... unbelievable.

Angry!

It started as when I first moved here as do 5-6hrs a day 5 days a week on his house working hard. Then suddenly after a few weeks 12-16hr days 6 days a week and threats, aggression, excuses etc.... ''I want more done, work faster! work longer! work harder!

Now additionally. Monitoring the work like an exploitive employer. What time I start/finish on his house, monitoring hours I put in, how much work gets done. Threats and aggression and pushing to get more done....



Pushing me like this will only have a negative effect....

Severing eventual all ties with my brother in due course is looking extremely likely.................
empx
empx
No one to talk too.

Some of the better bits... Not allowed to leave the building without his permission.

And get this....

He says the other day ''your not allowed to be happy in my house unless I'm happy. Makes me resentful of you''.

I'm sitting their thinking 'how F**ed up is he?

I imagine this is what prison feels like............................