Stress Management Support Group

Stress management defines stress as a person's physiological response to an external stimulus that triggers the "fight-or-flight" reaction.Stress can be overwhelming. This community is for best practices in stress management.

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How do you deal?

Bendnotbreak16
Bendnotbreak16

I have been struggling with a lot of things lately..my husband too. I've noticed we both have been very on edge and not dealing well with the stresses of life. It is making us angry all the time. We yell at the dogs we yell at the bids when they won't stop squaking, we have been very short with our 15 month old and I hate it. I hate that we have become these mean, people that we never used to be. I just need some ideas on how to deal with stress and become nice again. What do you do when you feel like your about to lose your mind?

Jersey_of_Oz
Jersey_of_Oz
SLEEP. Chances are if you have a 15 month old, in the last 15 months your life has been turned on its head, including losing a great deal of sleep.
I also bet that you are struggling to adjust your life around this 15 month old, that you had to give up things that you used to love that helped you relax because you simply don't have time left for them.
Be honest with your partner. Talk about how your lives have changed. Maybe that way you can start to find ways that help you get back to being people you liked to be.
Overwhelmed_Crazed
Overwhelmed_Crazed
Hi,
I am not sure there is a cure for that but remember to take time for you and keep date night or time alone with your husband so you can maintain your relationship and keep it healthy. You child will only benefit from your strong relationship. Also take turns getting sleep when your baby naps etc. Just keep at it till you find something that works for you and your husband :)
Bendnotbreak16
Bendnotbreak16
Thank you both so much!! I feel a bit better since I have not been drinking. I feel more in control of my emotions, my stress level, and everything.
MartinDDD
MartinDDD
Wow, shouting at birds is a new level of stress, but it's totally understandable! You guys are probably going through hell, things are not going as planned and therefore - you get triggered by every little thing.

I've gone through a similar experience, where all of my plans were destroyed by reality and as a result- I become bitter at life and all of it was just p*ssing me off. Anyways, what helped me is letting go of control. There are too many variables for you to be the master puppeteers of life - it's impossible. Do your best and whatever happens, happens.

This mindset of having everything planned exactly to the semicolon is super harmful. Life is messy, you know that. You decide what you want and then see what opportunities get revealed to you and you just slip through the cracks. It's going to be okay, just let go. Do your best and let it be the way it is - messy, weird and totally random. : )

Here are some videos that you can watch and feel better about the situation you're in right now:
Tolle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PlFPN2a-Aso
Stress: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d7pRPWn6hqo

Hope I helped there! This too will pass..