Many times we often put others before we put ourselves which is a great thing at times because i feel you should always think of others, but is it ok to put their needs or problems before your own? i have been struggling with this for a while, i feel that if you put others issues or needs before your own it will worsen your stress because you have not gotten time to work through your own stressful issues, but then again sometimes people have a special gift to help others some people just always know the right things to say and can give great advice even though they have never been through the same thing as the person. Some people have a thing where they are stronger than others and are able to deal with stress in a more healthy way so it is a reason you have people who come to you for advice and strength or for a person to lean on. But should should have a time where you take a brake from people sometimes just to focus on you or is that selfish? especially people who rely on you a lot for emotional strength is it wrong to take a brake from them to take care for you and put your issues first? I feel that maybe it should be equal you should help others just as much as you help yourself ,but balancing that might be challenging and even more stressful..what do you think?