I lost my baby girl at 21 weeks on Feb 24. I am so sorry for your loss. My OB told us we should wait after having 2 or 3 cycles to start again. So we are going to try in June. I lost my daughter due to an infection, and they are thinking I got it from an incompatant cervix. So my next preganancy is going to be watched like a hawk.

I am ready to try again, even though I am going to be a nervous reck the whole time. You have to be ready not only physically but mentally as well. My daughter was my first, and she will never be forgotten. I wish you the best of luck and lots of baby dust to you when you are ready to try for your rainbow!

(((HUGS)))
Alison

Did you guys have your babies natural or c-section?

i delivered Jayda natural

I had my daughter Mary Grace, natural. 16 hours and 22 minutes of labor and 2 epidurals.

Words of encouragement:God is at work in your life and He had closed that door of stillbirth and remmeber in revelations it says only He can close doors that no man will ever open and open doors that no man will ever close.Tell yourself that the doors of living healthy babies are now open and TTC trusting in God.

There is a ttc group and a pregnancy after stillbirth group where you can get alot of support. It's a scary journey, but many have gone on to have their rainbow babies... some haven't, and it will always be a risk that we take.
My OB can't say if my rainbow will be alright, she doesn't make me any promises, my faith doesn't say if my rainbow will be alright, God just says he'll walk this valley road with me, lots of friends and well meaning people will say that it'll be fine, you'll have a baby, but they're just well wishers, there is no promise... but take the step if you're ready, brace yourself, step forward into the unknown, hope and love will carry you, fear will be round each corner, but this is a journey that will never be easy, but I would say it's worth it. Most of us on here have agreed in past discussions that we wouldn't ever wish our angels hadn't existed, wish that we had never had them, love is stronger than pain, and it is that which will drive you forward. I wish you all the best with ttc!

I lost Mary on Feb. 17th at 36 weeks and we are now trying, I am scared to death. I think I need to just take it day by day, I want to have a baby more than my fear of loosing another one. I have a coworker who lost her baby right around the same amount of weeks that I lost Mary and they never really knew why. She was pregnant 2 months later and had a perfect 2nd pregnancy, now her little girl is 4yrs old. I try and think of that every time I start to feel anxious. Good luck Ill be thinking of you. :-)

I want to try again so badly. I will be praying for you. I wish you the best as you TTC. HUGS, SHelly

My Emily was born sleeping at 30w 5d 12/28/10. We are trying again in July. I'm scared too, but when the desire to have a living baby outweighs the fear I think it is ok to try again, and when you are medically cleared, of course. I bought Dr. Oz's book You having a baby and plan on seeing a nutritionalist for meal planning (I have high cholesterol also). For some people, focusing on every little thing may make them feel mad, but I find it comforting. I already threw out all my tupperware and bought all BPA free, and use paper plates to reheat my food. I think if anything happens, at least I will know I did everything that I knew of to increase my chances of having a healthy baby, but that is just me. I also have some answers as to why it happened, and will be on blood thinners daily once we TTC in July. Best of luck, kisses, love, and baby dust your way!

I lost my son, Stann Justice Davis, at 21 weeks as well on May 15, 2011 and as soon as the Dr gives me the ok to start I am going to start again. A friend of mine told me to claim that I will have a healthy happy baby, and I say the same for you. I am mad at God right now for taking my Stann, but I will tell you to leave it in his hands. Try again, you will be scared. I am scared that it may happen again, but I have to try. I have to give my Stann a little brother or sister, I have to and so do you.

Hi there - I lost my little boy, Achilleys, at 26 weeks in September 2009. He died due to a hypercoiled umbilical cord. I now have a rainbow baby daughter, Isabella, who is 14 weeks old and the light of my life. Trying again after losing my little boy was the hardest thing to do and I did not relax for 9 months until I saw my healthy little girl!! Just make sure you and ready and don't hesitae to contact hospital/doctor throughout your pregnancy! I had visits every two weeks and would continuosly go in to listen to her heart beat xo it was hard but when I look at my little girl I am so glad I did it!! I also believe that her big brother took care of her throughout the pregnancy - I am sure your beautiful Jayda will do the same thing xo Am sending you all my love and best wishes Ashleyg48 xo I am here if you want to talk more about it!!