Stillbirth Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.
Hi there,
Its so sad to hear that this has happened to so many women!
The last months i have read so many posts and watched so many youtubes about stillbirths, but have not shared my story!
Beginning of this year we found out we were pregnant, was not planned at all... But it still was the best news 2017 could bring.. My life changed completely and my world was revolved around our daughter Mia; since the moment i heard i was pregnant i knew i would no longer be alone..she was always there, i was so excited to meet her....
That was until 12th October when Mia had no heartbeat,the umbilical cord was the cause! I had a c-section on the 13th October she was 37weeks old. I chose not too see her after birth it was too hard for me; but now i wish i had.... Its been 2months since and sometimes it still feels so surreal, not a day goes by that i dont think of her...I would have good days and then i would have days where i jus want to be left alone to think of her... its hard
I also felt like I was never alone when I was pregnant - I work at home by myself and travel by myself for work, but with my little bean growing I didn't mind being by myself because I always had him. Now that he's gone the lonliness was too much - we actually adopted a puppy because I couldn't stand being alone all the time.
Of course we can't know what to do after our babies are born still. There's no way anyone would ever be prepared for that. I wish the nurses had given us some advice. I didn't want to see my son because I was afraid of how he would look.
I wish I had more time to myself to go through all of the thoughts and feelings. Even 2 months later, there is so much to process every day.
I'll be thinking of Mia today. I'd love to hear more about her if you want to share. Sending love.
Did your son have a name? Did you have a memorial?
I found Christmas a bit hard especially cause it would of been her first Christmas. But being with family did help a bit - not a minute passes where i don't think of her. I start work on the 3RD of January and completely dreading the fact of people asking me questions etc.......
Yes i would def like to share, its easier to talk to someone that really knows what am feeling and going through.
I hope your first days of work were okay. The questions are so hard to answer and hold it together afterwards. I just went to my office for the first time this week. I was always on edge because I didn't know who knew and who didn't.
I'll send you a direct message so we can chat more.
Everyone wanted me to spend time with the boys but I didn’t. I don’t know how they looked, how much they weighed, I don’t know anything about them..