It is actually really hard to say one way or the other. Counciling can help but it depends on several factors. If you get someone you like and are comfortable with it helps a ton. Some people do better one on one where others do better in a group setting. (I'm a 1 on 1 type but have tried both.) I didn't really find someone that worked for me after Destin but that doesn't mean that you wont. I only tried 2 but niether of them had been through what we have so I felt like I spent more time explaining what happened and 1 even didn't know we deliver our angels. This group has helped me the most but like I said everyone is different. I would be happy to chat or message back and forth if you want someone to talk to. I'm a stay at home so I would be able to be on anytime that works for you. I hope I helped alittle.

Yes, I have..or I should say, "Yes, I am." I am seeing the reverend who married my DH and I. He is also a certified counselor. I am a social worker myself and think that everyone should have a counselor. Even during our healthiest of times. The most important thing about counseling is feeling comfortable with the person and liking them. I saw a counselor that I didn't like...don't know why...just didn't. I dropped them like a hot cake.
I have found this place to be wonderful. My counselor is an angel on earth and helps in a different way. My DS sisters help in another. It is a good balance..

I tried it for a VERY short amount of time. But at the 2 month angelversary i had a breakdown and couldn't do it anymore. Its hard to talk to a stranger about it, even a professional. If you have no one else in your life to talk to one on one though i would do it, because it can take some of the burden away. But meet them first, make sure you're comfortable with them, and then you can open up about it. good luck sister

I went to a stillbirth group that was offered by another hospital which was very helpful. It was nice to be able to mourn openly. I then went to a faith based grief counseling group. It was enlightening because they had never considered stillbirth until I shared my daughter. They have been grieving with me ever since. I would say try the churches in your area and if need be convince them to start a group to fit your needs.

Hugs!!!
Nneka

I tried it. I was married to a soldier at the time, so even better that it worked somewhat, it was free.
Now, about therapy... You need to find a counselor or therapist you feel COMFORTABLE with. The first two I meant I didn't want to sit with, let alone talk about my deepest darkest. Third time was a charm, I met a wonderful professional counselor who was amazing. She reminded me of my grandma, sitting on her porch drinking tea and talking about everything! Now as for GROUP therapy, I did not find it as helpful. I was in a group for two years for military parents who had "lost" their children, Sids, SB, MC, (one of them was there for their six year old daughter who was KILLED by a family member). It that kind of environment, you can share freely, people listen, but they are also thinking about what they are going to say next. I would venture to say it was a good place to go AFTER my one-on-one therapy was over. Kind of like why I keep coming back to DS. It reinforces the good and positive. But therapy was helpful to me... I hope you find it helpful too! (If you need anything, Don't hesitate to message me!!!!!!)

Meghan (Mom to my angel James William)