Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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need help on navigating pregnancy after stillbirth

angelitoJ
angelitoJ

Hi Everyone,


I am new here. This past sunday marked my babie's first Angelversary. I chose not to TTC for an entire year as my act of mourning in honor of my beautiful baby born sleeping in 2015. It has been the worst year of my life and I miss him deeply each and every day but I am so glad I held off to mourn and grive the loss of my son. We lost him at 31 weeks, he was perfectly formed and it was a complete shcok to us. The trauma is real and now I feel anxiety about trying again. We never got a real answer as to what happened to our baby or why his heart stopped beating. There was no cord accident and he was developing on track with a strong heart beat. We have seen a perinatologist/high risk ob/fetal specialist and even a gentic counselor. No one has really addressed my concerns fully. I really want to reduce as much possibility of this happening again.


I wonder, have any of you tried to see an infertility doctor after stillbirth?


I know they perform very though diagnostics for their fertility patients to rule out many of the known pregnancy risk factors. I know I can have babies, since my first born's pregnancy was succesful and he is now 3 yrs old. However I kow that after having a stillbirth, I am at higher risk for another loss. I just want to check that my anatomy, genetics and hormoses are all healthy before trying again. Let me know what you guys think of a fertility doctor after stillbirth. 

angelitoJ
angelitoJ
I posted this Q a few days ago and haven't received a response yet. I just wanted to add that I have contacted a fertility doctor(reproductive endocrinologist) in my area and they have informed me that is it not uncommon for women to seek them after a stillbirth to make sure everything is in order before attempting a subsequent pregnancy. Just thought the info might be useful to other women.
elainesmith
elainesmith
I also lost our son at almost 31 weeks and he also was absolutely perfect all of our autopsy results and genetic testing came back absolutely perfect he was a great length and weight. He was growing perfectly until the moment his heart stopped we never got answers either however my husband and I have come to believe that the tdap vaccine I received four days before his heart stopped is what killed him. After losing him I had an overwhelming urge to be pregnant again we chose to start trying right away and we were blessed to be pregnant within 8 weeks of losing Kowen. We welcomed our healthy rainbow baby into the world ten months and 22 days after Kowen was stillborn. For her pregnancy we didn't do any fertility testing ahead of time but I was very closely monitored I had ultrasounds constantly and fetal heart monitor testing constantly which definitely helped me. But even with all of that I was a nervous wreck for the entire pregnancy my beautiful rainbow baby is now 9 months old and we are getting ready to try for another and again I'm feeling all those fears. I would absolutely say do whatever helps you every little bit will help!
Rebecca23k
Rebecca23k
Im so sorry about your loss. I lost my son at 38 weeks. He too was perfectly normal. I did find out afterwords through blood work ordered from my fertility Dr that I have a blood clotting gene mutation. So it could have been a blood clot.I had to be on an injectable blood thinner with my next pregnancy and delivered beautiful twin daughters. Don't give up and I know its hard but try not to worry.It will work out for you!! You are in my prayers!