I'm so sorry Jemma! I too lost my little boy at 41 weeks. It's been more than 2 months since. I miss him so much and I clearly remember the rawness of my pain on the early days. I know it looks so dark and overwhelming for you now, but I promise it'll get easier with time. I miss my baby, I miss the future we lost, my heart aches for him, for me and my husband, but I've also managed to function more as time goes by. So will you, I promise.

it's the sitar thing uber ever experienced however very comforting to know that I'm not alone in this. we were so excited for our world to be turned upside down with a little bundle of joy and now my house feels empty as the dream as now gone as is back to me my partner and our dog. i am trying to think positive that we will get that experience and after this we definately deserve it it's just so awful that we got right to the end of pregnancy for my boy to stop breathing the day before i gave birth to him. did you return to work or taken time off x

Jemma
I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing a baby after a 100% notmal pregnancy is horrible. My husband and I loss our baby boy at 39w4d after a great pregnancy. It has only been 3 weeks since I gave birth and the pain is very much still here. It all feels like a dream and as you said, we sit in a house full of things for our babies that we never got to bring home. Please know you are not alone.
You asked waitformeangel about work. I'm taking a month of and then slowly starting to go back to work as I feel that I need some routine back in my life. Sitting at home alone while my husband is back at work drives me insane. I feel like all I do is think about my baby boy Luca and that I never even got to hear his first cry. It may sound bad but I feel like I need a little distraction.
Take your time and do what you feel is right for you and your partner and talk about it with people close to you. I find it helps me to talk about my pregnancy and about Luca, not to everyone but to the people close to you.
Once again I'm extremely sorry for your loss. I know it doesn't change anything but I know how you feel.
Sending light and love
xo

Nherzog. you give me strength with what you have written its great to know im not alone and our stories sound pretty similar with our babies being only a days difference in how many weeks they were. Wondering if any of you ladies have managed to find out what went wrong. we have decided against a post mortum because i cant bear to think about my perfect boy being tampered with. turns out from one of my blood results that has already come back i had group strep b. after not knowing what this is i am quite angry that i didnt know previously. it seems such a common thing that unfortunately in the uk they dont routinely test for. its not at all confirmed that this is the cause and is very early days. hoping that we get a bit more information back from the results on the placenta which will obviously take some time.

thanks for your comments ladies. its so nice to know im not alone.

I'm already back to work, I took 8 weeks off but like Nherzog, I felt like I needed the distraction and being home alone with my thoughts was driving me crazy. But everyone is different, so do as it feels right for you.
We also decided against the PM. My doctor was pretty sure that our precious boy passed because of a cord compression. He was born with his cord wrapped around his legs tightly several times. She said it was an unfortunate accident, nothing we could have prevented. But this doesn't make me feel any better, just more fearful of the future.
I hope you get some answers, can't promise how much they help your grief, but you deserve them nevertheless.

Oh Jemma I am so sorry about your sweet son. What did you name him? I delivered our peaceful son Julian just over a month ago and it still hurts so much. We decided against a PM also, but were told it was likely due to the cord wrapped around his neck. I wish I had advice but I'm afraid I don't. I've been told by my counselors that you just need to feel the grief, to live it. They've told me it does get easier though it's still so very very hard. I have been journaling and that helps me remember the happiness I felt being pregnant with him and the love I felt when I got to finally see him. I was planning on going back to work after 6 weeks but just extended it to 8 weeks. I work at the hospital where I delivered Julian so I think that will make returning to work extra hard. Know you are not alone. So many of us have been forced to live this and we somehow survive. Send me a message if you want to talk. Sending you love, support and strength.

today ive got the date for funeral and hopefully me and the oh are guna get away early next week with the funeral being 11th sept. dreading it but also will need it as closure to rest my little boy. little things set me off. like. when pregnant no one lets you do any thing strenuous. yet yday reality hit that im no longer pregnant and can fend for myself. i cried when i put a wash on as id adapted our washing powder to suit for when the baby came. i just dont know what to do. i cry but then stop as i dont know exactly what im crying for ( i obviously know its the grief of loosing my baby) i feel sick that my life is going to return to 'normal' rather than changing never to be normal again (hopefully that makes sense) xx

Hi all, am so sorry to hear about all your stories. We lost our beautiful boy at 41 weeks on 29/06/2017. I was in hospital for induction the previous day but could not be induced on labour ward as they were busy ( my first boy was born via C/S) , the following day they were routinely checking me and we found out there was no more heart beat. We felt our world crashing because we had so much looked forward to holding our baby boy. Pregnancy was very straightforward with no concerns at all.
how have we coped? Jesus Christ has been my only strength. I have since learned that God is a just and kind God and will not want to take my baby from me, so why did it happen? I don't know however one thing is certain that God had made provision for me to comfort and guide me through the grieving period. People around us wonder how we can still laugh and go on with life....I still cry a lot but I do not allow myself to stay put in that position. This is because I am determined to have another baby which I will carry for the appointed time and give birth to. I will give birth to another live baby. My hope, trust and confidence is in the Lord. Is it that easy ? I say no but everyday I speak life to myself and my husband. I want to encourage you all that we can overcome this pain through the help of God. The Bible says in Isaiah 53: 4-5 that Jesus Christ bore our pains, sorrows and griefs when He died on the cross. It also says that by His stripes we healed from any sickness or disease. I have found tremendous strength from the scriptures and I sincerely encourage you all to do so if you want to. Only God can understand the way we feel. Other people who have not experienced this type of loss cannot understand- do you notice how every body has gone back to their normal routine? but God has promised He will never leave us nor forsake us. I pray that we all find strength to pull through this very dark period and that we all come out stronger on the other side. Amen