Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

591 Members

6,628 Posts

0 Online

LuvAmyLs1984 05/30/2011

Hi, my name is Amy. On Nov. 1, 2010 My sweet little Lacey was born still, and is now in heaven watching over me. I know God has good intentions. He needed a little angel and thought that Lacey would be perfect. Yet I still miss her and love her very much. I miss being pregnant with her. We had a good conection when I was pregnant with her.I miss that, I miss her sooo much. I wish that she was here. Everyone says I can try again, but that will not now, not ever replace her, and I think now it would just make it harder to get pregnant. I have another beautiful 8 year old daughter named Katelyn. She really helps keep me going. I have to stay strong for her, but yet when I do break down she is right there for me to give me a hug and listen. I thank God everyday for her. I wish that Lacey was here though. In fact my daughter took it really hard. My husband did too, but now it is hard for him to talk about it. We love you Lacey and you will always have a special place in our hearts. We will see you again some day.

nasnye 05/30/2011

My heart aches for and with you. I am so sorry we've had to meet here but I am happy that you have found us. There are so many people here to help you through the grieving process. We're all in different stages of grief but remember that grief is something you must allow yourself to go through in order to heal.

My Annaya became an Angel 9 months ago. She was stillborn at 37 weeks on my 37th birthday. The person I was before died with my daughter. I pray that I am a better person now but my heart aches... I thank God that although the pain does not subside that it does dull with time.

Lacey will live on in the hearts of everyone here.

I'm here if you need me.
Hugs!!!
Nneka

deleted_user 05/31/2011

I am so sorry for your loss and indeed no other child will ever replace Lacey.Thinking of you.

Hugs
Kuli

LuvAmyLs1984 05/31/2011

Thank You 'nasnye' that was really sweet what you wrote to me. I am just glad that I found this website. It has been a lot of help with all kinds of things, and I know that all of yous will be really helpful. Thank You again for your kind words.
Sincerly,
Amy

LuvAmyLs1984 05/31/2011

Hey, nasnye, I was 37 weeks also, and My little Lacey was very active also. She had already been passed away for a few hours also. But it could have been prevented. I had called about a week before that and told the nurse that I lost my mucus plug, and she told me that, that wasn't a sign of labor, and told me that I didn't need to some in. See I had extra amniotic fluids and that can cause premature labor so I was suppose to call if I had any signs of labor, and that was for sure one. After I had Lacey and went to the dr. to have my stitches removed, she promised me that they would keep a better eye on me and take better care of me. You know they should have the this tme, Lacey would be here right now. But being angry doesn't help so I try not to be mad. It is hard sometimes. Anyways my heart also goes out to you and you family.

LuvAmyLs1984 05/31/2011

Thank you kuli, I am so glad to have people to understand what I am going through. I am so grateful!

deleted_user 05/31/2011

welcome to DS. Wish we didn't have to meet this way, but here we all are. You have a beautiful outlook on Lacey's place in heaven. TTC again is definately a personal choice. Our babies will not be replaced by having another. My feeling is that our son wil pick out his brother or sister for us. I just hope he's not a procrastinator like his mother! My DH has a hard time talking about our son at times too. I just tell him that he can talk to me when he needs to and that I'm always here for him.

deleted_user 06/01/2011

I feel your pain so much. I loss my Stann Justice Davis on May 15, 2011 and he was my first born. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do is say Good bye. Cherish in the fact that your baby is in heaven and she doesn't have a care in the world, no pain and no anquish.

A friend of mine told me once for God gave his only begotten son Jesus to us, who died on the thrown for us, and God was reunited with his son. I say this to you, because she then told me that one day I will have my son, Stann, back. So I say the same to you, one ay you wil lhave Lacey back.

I know every feeling you are going through. There is nothing I can tell you to make it better. Just know that you have a friends on the website that will listen and let you cry, scream, vent, or just talk and that helps. Sending hugs your way

Join the Conversation