I got pregnant with my youngest only 4 months after our loss. There is no right reaction here. My Husband and I couldn't decide if we were happy or angry or what. We didn't get comfortable until after he was born and even then he was an emergancy c-section and had to be transported to another hospital. It wasn't until got home with him when my Husband looked at me while I was holding him and said "Now I'm Happy". Everyone deals with it differently. My Husband dosen't like to talk about it but he has no problem holding me while I cry. You just have to understand that he is hurting to and if he wants to talk let him know you are there.

I think you have to ask him if you really want to know. Just ask, without judgement. Say something to the effect of "I was thinking about what you said after we took the test and wasn't sure what you meant. Can we talk about it?" Tell him your honest feelings and listen to his. You may have a better idea of what to do next after you talk.

I got preagnat with my rainbow 2 1/2 months after my Timothy was born. My Rainbow is now 1 month old and today is my Precious angels 1 year Birthday. I can not tell you that it is a easy road or even that after your rainbow is born it is easy as it is not. My whold preagnacy I was conserned about everything. what did help was the people around me, My drs, My spouse and my family and friends. seek help and you need to be prepared for the long road. but I will say the blessign I felt to hold my son

Were waiting 4 months then all things are ago. My fiance isn't sold on the idea, he flip flops every day so we figured we'd wait another month. I've talked to him about it because yes it is very important we have their support as I hear it is not an easy road. He still isn't quite sure and I'm not sure he will ever be but I know his concerns and I try to reassure him maybe you can ask your bf why he doesn't want to try right away, find out what he thinks and maybe all he needs is you to hear him and reassure him you will be okay. He's probably mainly concerned about you so he'll want to know that you are okay to handle it.

ive asked him before alot. he says hes scared for it to happen again, but mainly that its too soon. Really i think he feels guilty like we're replacing Sophia. But i don't know... when his grandparents died he was ten and he's still so upset about that he can't even talk about it, and now its like that with Sophia. I'm worried if i don't address it he'll just shut down on me and we'll never have more babies!

I'd try to reassure him that your not replacing Sophia, you never will no matter if you wait 5 years you'll never be replacing her. I also think the same goes for fear of loosing another baby. I was talking with my mom today about why I was so afraid to try again soon and it was because I am terrified I will miscarry or loose another baby and I really thought about it and realized no matter how long we wait, we could wait 10 years and I know my fear would still be the same but I am at the point that I understand the risk is worth the possible outcome. Plus, if something were to happen again ( I pray it doesn't) we still have plenty of time to try a few more times. If you feel very passionate about getting pregnant talk to him let him know what you think about it and how you feel about the risk of loosing another one. I know it isn't easy like I said my fiance flip flops all the time but it seems when I reassure him I can handle it he's okay. If you really want to try I say go for it. Of course if he's on board too. I don't know if any of us will ever be sure until we hold that living baby in our arms.

My husband and I have decided that we will start trying again as soon as we can, my doc said 2 cycles, so I am hoping within the next 2-3 months we will start trying and hopefully get pregnant with our rainbow. It is a different decision for everyone. Our decision as I am sure yours is NOT based on replacing Kaylee. She could NEVER be replaced. But I want to be a mommy to a living breathing baby that I can teach and take care of and watch grow. It is not something that we should feel wrong about. I will always tell Kaylee's little sis or bro about her. My point is, you should do what you feel is right for you, and tell your boyfriend how you feel about it and encourage him to be honest with you. Your communication is very important at this point.

The next baby you have, no matter when it is, wouldn't be a replacement because it wouldn't have been created if not for your angel. Without her, the next one wouldn't come to be! Just remember that. It sounds that you, like me, want a baby now more than you ever thought possible....that makes total sense and there's nothing wrong with that.

Getting pregnant again is extremely emotional, but it is worth it. You need to be sure you are physically ready, and you need to be sure that you are as mentally ready as you deem necessary. I don't think anyone can ever be 100% mentally ready to go through a pregnancy again...but if you get excited at the thought of trying again then that's a good sign you are in a good spot.

If your doctor says you are physically ready then the rest is up to you and the papa. It might take some time to agree, but it will be a healing process, and imagine what the results could bring!

Right after missing our son I didn't know if id ever try again but free coming home it was empty. Our son was planned because we were ready to welcome another baby into our home. I felt guilty for wanting another baby. I felt as if I was betraying my son. I prayed that my son would understand the emptiness I felt. I prayed he would understand he will always be wanted and loved. He will always be my son and I will love him the same as my other children. I finally asked my husband and he admitted he felt the same. Here were are three months later and I got a positive pregnancy test 3 days ago. I spoke to my angel son about it and explained he's going to be a big brother andjust cause he not here with us he still has his big brother dutys he also has dutys to his big sister. I told him he need to protect them. I also told him that my love for him will never fade and if god ever came down and gave me another chance with him I would take it in a heart beat. I wanted him to know he is specail. You should tell ur bf how u feel. And ask how he feels. Good luck

For me, we tried again as soon as the Dr said it was ok, we agreed that we wanted future children as our angel was our first, and I was so desperate to have a baby. So much more so than before, when we ttc with our angel, I could take it or leave it, and maybe that's a good thing about this whole thing, that now I want it so much, maybe I'll be a better mom...
With regards to fear... it's worse before than during, coz once you're on the ride, you have no option but to face it and go... they say it gets worse getting to the week you lost your angel, and near the end... I'll never get to that week ever again, coz my angel was born on her EDD.
I think as humans we can never be little islands not doing anything for fear of getting hurt, and we all know girls who avoid relationships because of past hurts, but we feel sad for them that they avoid the possibility of being happy... I think it's the same with trying for a rainbow, it will always be risky, always be scary, but don't avoid it and lose the possibility of being a mom..
I don't think of it as replacing my angel, I think of it as directing all these mommy feelings and thoughts I have, and channeling this love that breaks my heart into a new and very special life.. and many times I've heard, if you could go back and not have your angel to save you this pain would you, and every time I've heard me and other moms say, no way... I'd rather have my angel than no baby at all, and that's how I feel about my rainbow. Whatever happens, its life is more important to me than the risk I feel I have to take... good luck talking to your boyfriend and hope this helps!!!

Its been over a year since I lost my son. I did get pregnant a little before a year after my son died and its unexpected. But I'm 16 weeks pregnant and really scared but happy at the same time. You will now when the right time is and so will God.