Your memorial sounds like it was really nice. I'm glad you were able to get through the day. It's still hard, I know. It really isn't fair, and I don't understand why these things happen. There is such an emptiness, a longing, and such heartache that goes along with losing our babies. It is such a traumatic experience, and I wish that so many of us wouldn't have had to go through it. My heart goes out to you. I know what you're feeling, and I will be thinking of you.

just joined this group. I lost my son 3 weeks ago at 27 weeks pregnant. A completely healthy pregnancy and baby. No known cause found. I can only sympathize with you...and it's the most awful pain. I'm glad that you made it through the due date...this is something that I will be dealing with in the upcoming weeks. On top of that, I have SEVERAL friends that are pregnant due around the same time, and my sister in law is also pregnant. It complicates my grief for sure. I read your other post...and I just have to agree with the anger that comes with being blindsided. I of course knew stillbirths occurred, but I was under the blind impression that it was SO RARE and that something had to be wrong with the pregnancy or mother for it to happen. I just didn't see it coming at all. One day he was bouncing around like a crazy baby boy, the next I didn't feel him...that was it. end of story. NOw that I have come out and told my story to family and friends I'm hearing so many more like mine. This should be something discussed more when you start your pregnancy, just so you are aware. I still had the impression that once you made it past 12 weeks you were in the clear! not anymore. ugh.

Jenahf, I'm sorry for the loss of your baby boy, I was the same, I of course knew stillbirths happened but not to healthy babies, and of course not to me! And not for no reason at all! I have since heard so many stories of still birth it is shocking, it is more common that most deadly diseases. If there were 12,000 deaths from ebola in the US a year you could bet your ass something would be being done! And EVERYONE would know the risks! But when its babies its just not talked about like it should be :(
I wish I could day it's gotten easier for me, it hasn't. I feel like it's defiantly gotten harder since his due date passed because now I'm suppose to have him, he's no longer suppose to be in my tummy, he's suppose to be in my arms. I picture what he would be doing everywhere I go, in the car where his car seat should be in the bedroom where his cradle should be...It's the heads pain I've ever felt.
I know its at a point where people think it should be getting better and I am able to act like it is at times, I have a 12 year old daughter so I have to allow myself to still be a mom to her, she is alive and deserves her mom to be healthy for her. But inside its still killing me. Its hard when people don't understand the pain. I am thankful that there are no babies in my close family, we do have 2 cousins who just had babies who we haven't seen since before we lost Kowen but we go camping with them both every summer, I'm not sure how I will get through it this summer, without Kowen. He was suppose to be there with us, with the other babies :(