Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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MeJustHere 03/09/2011

Why me?! Why us?! Why do we have to deal with this??! This is not where I'm supposed to be right now in my life. I'm supposed to have a 5 month old son. I'm not supposed to be depressed and not be able to go in the bedroom that was his. WHY??! Why does my heart have to be broken? Why o I have to be jealous of the handful of friends that are pregnant and have babies?? I'm supposed to be happy for them and swapping stories. I'm just having a really bad night. And I want to see and hold my son again. And I want to kiss those beautiful lips and sleeping eyes.

deleted_user 03/09/2011

I feel the same way almost every day. We just have to take it one step at a time and we will make it. Sending you a hug

deleted_user 03/09/2011

I'm so ANGRY right now also. I just lost my baby girl last wednesday at 22weeks. She was my 8th lost and I have no living children. It hurts so bad. Just yesterday I accidentally walked down the pregnancy test aisle in walmart and my heart just broke and I walked down the next aisle and there was this young teenage girl who was about 5/6 months pregnant and I got so upset because I am suppose to be 6months pregnant at this time. Losing a child cuts so DEEP. It's a feeling no mother should ever go through.

deleted_user 03/10/2011

I lost my son at 37 weeks, a month ago. I wish no mother would have to lose a child. My arms ache to hold him, and I know how it feels to be so angry. Sometimes I tell myself I just need to make it through the next five minutes. It is not easy, but knowing that someone cares helps. Sending you a hug too.

deleted_user 03/10/2011

sending you hugs! I feel the same as you sometimes. I should be home with my 1 month old, not sitting at work. I have never felt pain like this before. When my dad died (8 years ago next week) I remember thinking, Is my Mom ever going to be okay again? The years have passed but her pain is just as deep. You never get over the sudden loss of someone you love so much. My love for Victoria continues to grow despite her not being her. I hope you are finding support at home.
-Jodi

deleted_user 03/10/2011

We lost our Marissa at 38 weeks in January of 2010. I have a friend who had a daughter just a day before Marissa left this world. So, I have had to watch this little girl grow, know what Marissa would be doing now. Luckily, we had a 2 year old at home to help us through the hardest times. We would not have made it without our son! We started trying to have another baby after 5 months, and got pregnant that month. Our little Parker will be 3 weeks old tomorrow. It does not take away the empty feeling in my heart, but having him has helped us heal a lot. It will get easier, but the pain never truly goes away. Hang in there, and know that we are all here for you!

SophiasMom2010 03/10/2011

I know what you mean! Sometimes I just get so angry. I'm so tired of being a "survivor", I just want my baby girl here!!!!!

I don't think I want to be cheerful today either, I'm with you all the way.
Its not fair and its not right, we did everything we could for them and then they're ripped from our bodies and arms! A baby should never die. :(

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