i know how you feel! I just read yesterday that 1 in 160 babies are born still born or every 20 mintues a stillbirth accurs. 26,000 babies a year! It breaks my heart there are so many of us. My baby died because her cord was wrapped several times around her foot. Freak accident the doctors said. I cant helped to think if they had only seen it sooner! Its all just very sad.

Hello,
I haven't told my story here yet. I lost my daughter Avery at 23 weeks gestation. I was told an immune disorder - lupus - caused an maternal floor infarction. We now know my daughter thrived until the five month mark when she stopped getting the oxygen and nutrients she needed to continue to grow. It's been triple-devastating because I didn't know I had lupus and her death could have been prevented had I known. Also, since delivering my daughter I've been on all kinds of medications attempting to calm the flare up that took my child's life. I'm doing this alone as I found out early in my pregnancy that Avery's dad had a girlfriend he'd been with for almost 2 years. He was desperately trying to contain the truth and that meant he had to deny everything - me and the pregnancy. We had very little contact.

All this to say, I know I don't have the best of luck as evidence of all that's just happened to me, but I just don't believe the statistics they put out there. I think women who go thru this are encouraged to stay quiet about it. Nobody wants to talk about dead babies and there is a shame attached to a woman telling this story because than it's assumed you are some how 'less than' because you weren't able to carry your child to term. I was in deep conversation just a week ago with a woman (a friend of a friend) and told her what happened to me. She told me I should keep what happened to my daughter "to myself because somebody might use it against me." I can't tell you how angry that made me.

My point - personally I think the numbers are much higher. I just can't prove it.

There needs to be more sensitive sonograms that can actually pin point where the cord is. I do not understand with all the medical advances and technology that this has not been done!! The majority of still births are from cord accidents and it needs to be taken more seriously. Three million precious babies are still born around the world every years, that is one every 21 minutes. This has gone on far too long without more research being done.

My baby girl was lost to one of the more rare cord accidents (hypercoiling), but cord accidents in general are terribly common. One of the more common causes of stillbirth in general, I believe.

I really struggle with anger about it, because it seems like something that could be monitored somehow. Maybe not easily, but wouldn't it be worth the extra time and money to save all those lives? :(

I lost my daughter also in the cord accident . I am too scared that it will happend again . What can I do to protect those terrible accident in next pregnancy ... probably nothing ... the doctors don't even look if the cord and it is not a problem for them because many babies are born with a cord around their neck but with no problems.

I think we have all screamed that after our horrific loss. I can't understand why more isn't done. I have a hard time coming on here and seeing another mama has lost a child that she never got to even say hello to let alone goodbye, my heart breaks for every new member on this site. Warm Hugs to all!!!

My daughter was born sleeping at 39 weeks due to a cord accident. I had my drs appointment same morning that she stopped moving. That has been the most horrible and unfair thing that has happened to my life. I think about her every day. Big hug to you and I am very sorry for your loss.

I am a grandmother. my granddaughter Sofia was born asleep. The autopsy showed no abnormalities or causes. she was born 22nd February 2014. I feel that I cant talk about this with my friends, They think I should be moving on. I am trying to find some support group but can not locate any.

I was told by my doctor that they could not find a reason why Malaysia died. However, her cord was wrapped around her neck and I believe that is why she passed away. I am very disappointed with how normal pregnancies are handled. Because I was not a high risk pregnancy I felt as though I was not monitored as carefully.

The last time that I seen Malaysia alive on an ultrasound I was just 19 weeks pregnant. So much could have happened to her from that point on that the doctors would not have known about because they did not do a third trimester ultrasound. When I was 38.5 weeks pregnant and they pulled her picture up on the ultrasound and she was not moving it was the worst moment of my life. For weeks I kept comparing the picture of her at 19 weeks doing full on rolls to the picture of her at 38.5 weeks when she was completely still. It haunted me.

ALL pregnancies should be treated as high risk. It is not fair that so many babies are born still every year and many mothers are not considered high risk until they lose a baby. It is not fair that people with so called "normal" pregnancies have to lose a life in order to be monitored more closely in their next pregnancy. What is wrong with doctors and the health care industry? Why is it not emphasized that EVERY life should be treated carefully?