I am deeply sorry- I lost my little angel last year 7/5 at almost 6 months, at first when people said it gets better I did not believe them, but I can honestly say..it does. The pain, anguish and hurt you feel and may feel for awhile is normal as well- cry, scream, shout, do whatever you need to do to get rid of some of the built up emotions, for me I try to read and think of positive thoughts... Hugs!

So sad and so sorry you have to join us here. Gosh, it is still so new for you. All I can say is that your body needs time to heal (so don't forget your hormones are only making things feel worse!) but your heart and soul are what might even need more attention. Don't forget too, in your sadness, to take care of yourself and do what you need to do. It took me a long time to gather the courage to go out, be social, or even want to leave the house. I sometimes thought "well, maybe it will make me feel better" but I always left the option open to cancel and not feel guilty about it.

I would recommend, if possible, joining an in-person support group. That was one of the most healing things I did, even if it was extremely difficult the first time (and plenty of later times too). It was empowering to share my story and learn about the grief process too, to know that what was going on with me was okay. You don't have to do that right away of course, but I do think it helped me immensely to make some friends in the area who really get what I am going through and have trained professionals lead us through activities and discussions that helped me understand a lot.

Other than that I don't have any specific suggestions for you. If you like to be informed, check out every library book you can (beware the internet!) and ask people you know who had babies die about their stories. If you aren't ready or don't want to go that route then do whatever else you want to do! People who really matter and really care will want you to do what you want. They also may not know what to do, so don't take it the wrong way if they just sit there or call and don't seem to have anything to say...I found out that someone trying and seeming awkward was better than someone not trying at all ;)

Things will get better, even if you can't possibly imagine it. Just take it one minute at a time, grieve however you need to, and remember your sweet baby any way you want to and can. She will always be your daughter. Hugs.

I am so sory for your loss of Alexandria...I so wish you didn't have to be a member of this group...it breaks my heart when I see a new mommy on here...this is a wonderful website & a wonderful group of women...I have found a lot of comfort on here...I lost my son, Luke on April 18th at 35 weeks. A part of you is gone and I know the sadness and emptiness that you are feeling all too well. I don't really know how to tell you to move forward because there are some days that are just too hard to get through but you will make it through this journey...just take it one day at a time & don't be too hard on yourself....I will be praying for you & thinking of you...if you need to chat just let me know...sending you lots of love and hugs!!
Vicki

I am so very sorry--I have lost my two little boys at 21w (one in november of last year, and one 2 weeks ago). i agree with previous posters, but also to remember if you have to take it hour by hour. don't even think about day by day--it can be extremely overwhelming! do whatever you need to do for yourself--hopefully you have a lot of people around you and supporting you, but remember if you need to be alone, to cry, to scream, to just sit and be still, just do it. everyone else will figure it out. you need to do what's best for you right now!
thinking of you and wish i could take all of our pain and sadness away!

I am so sorry for your loss.I lost my bbay girl at 31 weeks and to be honest no amount of words will heal the heart but I am thinking of you

A piece of you is gone and you will never be the same, but we are here to help you. If you ever need to talk and vent, this is a great place to do it. Sending love and hugs!

I am truly sorry for your loss. I too lost Little George at 30 weeks 4 days on 29th, April, 2011. As i have experienced, the journey of grief is not an easy one, but with the help of all the wonderful brave ladies in this site who are walking this same journey, it will be less harder. We are all here for you, to listen, to empathize and encourage.
Thinking of you.

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement ladies, it really helps. I am trying to take it an hour at a time like one of you suggested but I know I have a long road ahead of me...just looking forward to the brighter days..

I am so sorry for the loss. I wish there was something profound I could say to answer your question on how to deal with the pain. But I am apologize there is not. On May 15, 2011 my first born Stann Justice Davis was born still. On that day a part of me died. What I can say to you is you are not alone. Know that all the mommy's and daddy's in this group know exactly what you are going through and we are here for you. IF you feel the need to cry, scream, vent, or just talk that is what we are here for. I also want you to know that it is not your fault. It was nothing that you did wrong, so all of the what if's you may be asking yourself don't, because the what if's will increase the pain. Just know it wasn't your fault so don't feel guilty. I also want you to know to take it one moment at a time and that is all you can do..

Hugs XOXOXOXOXXOXO

I am so sorry for the loss. I wish there was something profound I could say to answer your question on how to deal with the pain. But I am apologize there is not. On May 15, 2011 my first born Stann Justice Davis was born still. On that day a part of me died. What I can say to you is you are not alone. Know that all the mommy's and daddy's in this group know exactly what you are going through and we are here for you. IF you feel the need to cry, scream, vent, or just talk that is what we are here for. I also want you to know that it is not your fault. It was nothing that you did wrong, so all of the what if's you may be asking yourself don't, because the what if's will increase the pain. Just know it wasn't your fault so don't feel guilty. I also want you to know to take it one moment at a time and that is all you can do..

Hugs XOXOXOXOXXOXO

I am so sorry to hear your story.. That was my Son's Due Date and He passed that morning at 351 am ... Everything was perfect .. Except no Heart Beat, His cord Wrapped around his Neck...Its only been a Short time for you and I .. And I know that my Entire World is crashing down around me right now... But I also know that the women here tell me it does get easier... I pray everynight that it does.. This site has been so Good to me this past week.. I have cried for others which has helped me see that I am not alone and if they lived thru it ... There is a small chance that I will too.... I will keep you in my thoughts and my Prayers... If you ever need to talk ...I am always hear to Listen ... Xo

I'm so sorry. You are in my prayers. Sending you love and light during this dark time.

I love the book Empty cradle broken heart. You are going to cry a lot but I think really help me to know that I was not the only one going through something this traumatic. It is very hard and you are never going to be the same person but time will help you to heal. I am still having a hard time but I know one day I will be with my baby girl in heaven and I am so looking forward to that day. A big hug to you and I am so sorry.