I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son the day before on October 19, 2014. I have definitely noticed things are different between my husband and I. Sometimes it has felt like we are closer than ever. Especially during the first few days. But most of the time I feel very distant from him. We are grieving differently. I need to talk about things all the time and he just wants to be back in a routine and keep busy. We are going to a counselor which is helping us to communicate with each other better and to grieve together. It seems to be helping so far.

Sheamolan3, my husband was the same way. He wanted to move forward and was "done" talking about it way before I was ready to. That's one of the reasons I joined a support group at that time. I talked with others who also needed to talk and to grieve. Otherwise I don't know how I would've made it. My husband is a very good person, but he has always focused on the positive and never wanted to "dwell." He is still like this. It's not really a bad thing, but it made it difficult during the time. I just finally realized that that was his own way of dealing with it and that I needed to do what I had to to "deal" with my own grieving. Hence the support groups:)

First of all I am very sorry to know about your loss. It has been complete 2 months since my baby was still born and for me I think I can never stop talking about him and I have never been able to go to sleep without crying silently. In the first few days my husband was really very supportive and it was the time when I felt that he really cares for me but now he don't want to see me crying and so I cry when he is not near me. My husband also says the same that we should accept God's decision and although I do accept this my heart breaks every day. Our relationship is fine but I have just stopped expressing my emotions and feelings because my crying makes him upset and I don't want to make him upset.

Our relationship has changed a lot.
Initially my husband was the same, he would get impatient and not understand why I was still so emotional about it. We went to see a psychologist together which improved things a lot. She helped him to see that we all grieve differently and that every way of grieving was ok and that it was ok for me to want to talk about it and cry about it.
He also now says to me that as much as this has happened to us, it also happened to me on a whole other level.
There's the physical aspect of having carried her, having had to deliver her, and dealing with the scars and my changed body afterwards. Most importantly he also recognises that she was with me every single day for almost 9 months, she was my constant companion. I cared for her every single day, protected her every single day, talked and sang to her every single day. I already loved this little person deeply and my relationship with her was a lot deeper than I think it's possible for them to imagine. He now lets me cry about her whenever I want and he just sits with me and holds my hand. I'm very fortunate in that he has now come to realise that I need to grieve in this way. I really do believe talking to an objective third party was the best thing the two of us could have done.

After our baby's funeral, my husband went back to his usual self and I was still grieving. I understand everyone grieves in their own way but he never talks abuot our baby or brings her up. I guess it upsets me how he got over her so quickly. So lately I have been feeling distant from him. I feel I can't talk to him because he doesn't want to hear it or he looks the other way when he sees me crying. I know it's mostly me but I just don't know how to cope and deal with my pain while he has been able to move on. I guess I just feel that he is insensitive to me still mourning our loss.