Hi Hon,
Know exactly how you are feeling - there were 3 of us that found out we were pregnant in the same week and all due within 10 days of each other. They both had rough pregnancies and had to have c-sectinos, but both have healthy babies...i had a blissful pregnancy until 38+ weeks when colleen was born sleeping. I have sent only a couple of messages to them via facebook, when they ask how i am, otherwise i have not talked to them at all since Feb. I have also only recently started seeing my friends with older children - difficult when you are a god mother to 7. Trust me ont his - if your friends cannot understand y you need the space right now, then they are not worth explaining it too - hard but true! i a amazed how mnay of us loose our babies because of things that could have been picked up earlier if our idiot doctors actually did their job instead of worrying about buying their next BMW!! i still dont know the cause of colleen's death adn can only take more precautions to try adn hope that it doesn't happen again.
Hon we understand you and we are all here for you!

hey ya,
i too know exactly how you feel.
My friend started what she called the baby race. then last september, i suddenly realised i was pregnant, and another friend was just ahead of me. The friend who started the baby race fell pregnant 2 months later. Unfortunatly, this friend lost her baby at 20 weeks. she couldnt see me as i was still pregnant, so i gave her the space she wanted, as i didnt want to upset her. then a month later i lost matilda at 35 weeks. This friend promised to come over and cook me dinner, but then gave me some excuse why she couldnt make it that day ( she said her son had a rash). on Facebook the next day it turns out she had gone to hospital to meet our other friends daughter who had just been born. i was so upset that she lied. She then told me she didn't want to see me as it would bring up all her pain. This has made it all so difficult, as we used to be quite close the 3 of us, and now i feel like the lepper. She has tried to make it up with me now, but i am so angry with her, im scared of what i might say. its been months since i saw her. now i need space, as it has all been made into such a huge issue ( by them, facebook and other friends who dont know what it feels like to loose a baby). So i have not gone out much, i avoid these friends now, as too much time has past. the pain is immense.
i do feel jealous when i see other pregnant women or women with newborns, but that's only natural, as they have what i should have. I put up blinkers, ie i look somewhere else, and block my view so i don't burst into tears.
i have an older toddler and have stuck with my toddler mum friends as i can still join in the conversation, and luckily none of them were pregnant recently.
its a tough situation for you, and it is going to upset you. maybe it would be best to not to see them for a while, as the conversation will be about babies as that's all new parents talk about. Im sure they will understand if you explain your reasons.
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Some people act like we have dead baby cooties.

There are ways for Drs to be able to look at a baby's cord you just have to request a detailed ultrasound. Check out Dr. Jason Collins at the Pregnancy Institute. You will get all of your answers there. He also takes direct calls.

I may never know what stole the life of my Angel, Annaya, but I know that her death will not be in vain.

Hugs!!!
N.

I forgot to answer your other question about people who are pregnant.

Annaya was Heaven Born on August 27, 2010 at 37wks. October 10, 2010, my nephew and his girlfriend had a baby girl. May 2011, my niece had a baby girl and June another niece has a baby boy.

My nephew gave his daughter my daughter's name for her middle name. I am not only Jordyn's great Aunt, but I am her godmother. I email her parents and mail presents but I have not seen her in persson yet. I haven't visited any of the babies yet...

You will know when it is time to contact your friends.
Hugs!!!
N.

I hear you. I found out I was pregnant in December and then my two best friends both found out they were pregnant in February. I was almost mad at them at the time because (1) they tried for about 5 seconds before coming pregnant whereas I had already had a prior loss and (2) because I was afraid that it couldn't end well for all of us. They are both about 23 weeks along--due two days apart--and I feel like I have been left behind. My only advice is this-- be honest with them about your feelings. Once I did that, my friendship with one of them grew even stronger. So long as we are open and honest, the situation seems less awkward. The other friend has been distancing herself from me somewhat, which is hurtful, but to be honest, I avoided her a lot in the beginning too. Things are getting better for me though and I know they will get better for you. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable right now. If that means some distance, don't worry about them thinking you're not a good friend. If they are truly good friends, they'll understand.