First off I'm so sorry you have to feel this pain. We lost our daughter in February at 40 weeks due to a knot in her cord. I also had a perfect pregnancy. I understand how you feel right now. It will get easier I promise. The best advice I can give is to just take it one day at a time. Allow yourself to be emotional. Communicate with your husband, you both are going through the same thing. ❤️

I'm so sorry you lost your daughter and have to experience this overwhelming grief. Thank you so much for the response and advice.

I know exactly how you're feeling, I lost my son in June at 41 weeks. I also had a perfect pregnancy and a healthy strong baby in my tummy.
It's almost 2 months since and the pain is still strong but there are moments I feel I can breathe again. It's not as raw as the very first weeks.
What really helps me is writing down my thoughts, telling my son all the feelings I have for him. When I feel my pain build up, I start writing in my journal and cry as I write.
After my body healed, I started exercising, my husband and I go for daily walks together and try to communicate our thoughts to one another as much as possible.
There hasn't been a day I've not cried yet, but it's not all day long like it was the first weeks. This is a terrible loss we all experienced, just take it one moment at a time, be open with your partner and don't judge him if he has a different way of dealing.

I lost my daughter at 39 weeks two months ago. I am heart broken as is everyone on this post. It's a nightmare that I can't wake up from. But I will agree with the fact that time heals. I cry less. It's still hurts like hell though. I go to the grave often as I can. I. Brought my daughter with me there for the first time. And I couldn't believe what she did. She left her beloved paci on the grave and said bye bye Julianna. Now mind u she just turned two. It was definitely a sign. From my angel above. Keep your eyes and ears open for urs it helps me smile to know that she is with me at all times. Xo

I am so sorry for the lost of your baby baby. Your story is very similar to mine. I was 35 weeks and a few days when I lost my baby girl a little over 2 weeks ago. I had an almost perfect pregnancy. I ate well, exercised (light walking) and had no issues during my pregnancy. My baby was also active, and then suddenly I did not feel her move. I drank cold water, then I drank sugary juice. She did not move so I called my doctor right away and went into the office. She did an ultrasound and was not able to detect a heartbeat. I just returned to work today and left halfway through because I could not focus and had a terrible migraine. It is so painful and I am trying to be strong for everyone else, but I just can't anymore. I am looking into therapy to see if that will help me cope with this terrible, unexpected loss. I feel as if I am in a nightmare that I cannot wake up from. My due date was 8/26 and all I keep thinking about is how I should be holding her in my arms, watching her sleep or waking up to her cries. It is tough, but we just have to take it one day at a time.

Thank you all for your responses. I'm so sorry you've all had to live this nightmare. I appreciate your heartfelt advice and support.

It is heartbreaking to see others have lost their little ones. I am so sorry to hear of your losses. Yes it is a nightmare.
I too lost my baby girl 7 1/2 weeks ago. It seemed like I had a healthy pregnancy. Bubs was so active. I felt amazing and loved every bit of the pregnancy. There was days when bubs was a bit quiet but that evening she would be moving and kicking again. I didn't think much of it and many friends had said that their bubs did the same. 2 days before bubs came, she was quiet for 2 days in a row. I have no idea why I didn't check it out. I wish that I had it checked out! I feel stupid for not checking it out. I went into labour on my due date - 40wks. She didn't survive the labour. I birthed her sleeping. My husband and I are totally devastated. It took us 8 rounds of IVF and 10 years to conceive her. She was so so precious. We had a full post mortem done on her and the placenta. She was absolutely perfect in every way. Unfortunately my placenta wasn't. I had undiagnosed IUGR. Bubs was only 37 wks in size. And my placenta had Massive Perivillous Fibrin Deposits. What makes this all so sad, my husband and I questioned my doctor about my low weight gain and belly size. She didn't seem to think of it as a issue. I wish she had taken the time to consider it more carefully, due to my history of recurrent miscarriage and how precious this pregnancy was to us. She new of my fear of still birth. She wasn't careful enough, I wasn't careful enough. To top it off, the hospital I birthed at was completely negligent. When I arrived to hospital, everything seemed fine with bubs, heartrate and my b.p. They checked my every hr, then they just stopped. They did not check my baby's heart rate, my blood pressure, my hydration for 3 hours, when I was in established labour. It was with in these hours that she passed away from hypoxia. She could have been saved. How on earth could a hospital be so negligent in Australia. This is not a third world country.
So dealing with the trauma of birth, the loss of our perfect baby girl, fertility challenges and if we will every get the chance to have a family again. The thought of doing more IVF makes me sick. We had a perfect little girl, ready to be birthed. My longing for a child is ever so strong. Hoping for another miracle, the first one was our little girl, this time a natural conception and a beautiful soul that my husband and I can help flourish in this world.
P.S. I cry every day. This loss is never going away. But hopefully joy will fill more space and lessen the pain I so acutely feel right now.
P.P.S. My love goes out to all mothers that have lost baby's. xx

Thought that I would share what I have been doing to move through this nightmare, as it was the original question asked. :)
The first 2 weeks I was in shock and in full grief mode with all the text book symptoms. I don't remember much of those 2 wk. I managed to only do 1 - 2 tasks in a day. But my husband and I got out in nature every day. We found so much comfort in it. We talked openly about our feeling.
Each week has been getting a tiny bit easier.
Wasn't until about wk 5 that I could do things I normally do such as meditation and diary writing. Before I was just in survival mode!
Here is a list I what I have done -
Meditate.
Yoga
Gratitude with my husband every night.
Read our promised that we made to our baby every day.
Open and honest discussions with my husband has provided so much comfort
Counselling
Healing (Reiki)
Share my story with anyone that I feel comfortable sharing with and will listen!
Share photos of my baby girl with everyone I can!
Made a photo album of our baby girl
Made a movie of all the photos of her
We are scattering her ashes into the ocean as the whales migrate past with their calves
I wrote a book about her soul moving on (she is a whale now ;). I will have it illustrated and printed.
We have some art work that is being commissioned in memory of her.
My husband had a ring made in memory of her.
Diary write: write letters to my girl, describe my birth etc etc
Take it really easy and note put too much pressure on myself to do anything.
I haven't returned to work yet
Taken up an old hobbie that used to make me really feel alive (surfing). Husband happy with this!
Being in nature
Listen to music that helps access emotion.
"not now time" try and give myself a break from thinking
Burn a candle every night for her
Cry a lot
Reach out to friend that really understand.
Reaching out to others that have had a still birth
Use 24hr support line for still births
Sleeping tablets!
xxx

Thank you so much for sharing your story and advice Hopefulmumma. I am so very sorry you lost your sweet girl. I am going to try journaling and reaching out to friends this week. I have really isolated myself and my emotions since losing Julian and have been encouraged by my husband and counselor to try to talk to my friends. Sending you all support and strength. Xoxo

Hi there,
I'm so sorry for your loss. The heartbreak is truly indescribable isn't it? I felt as though the whole word stopped when they told me my sons heart wasn't beating. I thought I'd let you know my beautiful boy was still born too.. On the 27/07/17. Just one day before yours. I was induced 2 days before he was born. At the time, I honestly thought I was the only one going through such pain and misery. I thought surely no one else could ever possibly understand my pain.. You would have been going through the same emotions, at the exact same time.. I find that crazy for some reason, and somehow comforting to know I wasn't alone (even though i wouldn't wish this on anyone) I'm sure our boys are playing together up in heaven. Dealing with the grief has been a process, but each day gets a little better. I picture my boy as a tiny Angel. In each beautiful sunrise and sunset, in every pretty butterfly or happy moment in my life; I know that's him. Sending you all my support xxx

Ckaye - I am so very sorry you lost your sweet boy too. It is crazy to think we were living the same terrible events at the same time. It made me smile to think of our boys playing together. Thank you for your beautiful words, they brought me comfort. Sending you love and support too!

ladies thus post gives me so much hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel. im in the dark stage where im fine one minute then a wreck the next it hasnt been a week since i lost my baby boy. it kills me when i think of what should have been. xx love to u all x