I wish I had some advice. I just can relate. There's a girl I work with who is pregnant and due in October. She and I talked a few times (we work in different offices) when we were both pregnant. After I lost my baby and came back to work I never heard from her or saw her. It's like she was scared of me. She came by my office to talk to someone else and it was me who initiated conversation. I asked her how she was doing and how she was feeling. Not once did she mention or acknowledge what happened to me. And this isn't the first time something like that has happened.

But I just have to keep reminding myself that 1. people just don't know how to handle themselves and some are just idiots! and 2. People are living in this blissful thought that everything will work out with their pregnancy, or their daughters, or their friends, etc. And that's how it should be. Unfortunately we know that's not the truth, but how wonderful to assume that nothing will go wrong. I was like that with my baby - everything went so well the whole time so I never thought that anything would go wrong, especially at the end.

But I've also realized that it's a GOOD thing that so many people don't know what to do around people like us or are excited about being pregnant or having someone close to them pregnant. If more people were like us it would be even more of a tragedy. And we have to remember that as terrible as it is, it still is not the norm. The majority of people can and will have normal, healthy deliveries and normal, healthy babies. And we want it to be like that as it will give us hope for our future rainbow babies. The fewer people in our situation, the better.

So hang in there - you did the right thing by venting to the people who do understand.

I wish I could help. I too have to work with pregnant colleagues. My Coordinator is pregnant and I overheard her talking to another co-worker yesterday morning who just announced that she is ALSO pregnant...so now I have two pregnant ladies right next to me :( They are both due in February. I know it is going to be very hard once they start showing...I am trying my best to avoid hearing their conversations. I close my door when they are talking so I can't hear. I wish you luck in dealing with the situation - I know first hand it is not easy.

Im so sorry to hear this. Its always worse when the people who are pregnant or just had a child dont seem to give a sh@t about the little one. Sure now she loves the attention, but seemed to care so little for the life at first. A friend's daughter keeps bragging about how she smoked and drank her intire pregnancy, even doing pot the day before she delivered, and her child is perfectily "normal"... dont people realise how that can have a perminant effect on the child's social/mental development?
I hope you can talk with her, or that shes at least kind enough to stop doing it in front of you.