Stillbirth Support Group
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Well, for the 2nd time another friend is pregnant. Me and her aren't all that close, she's too gossipy and untrustworthy for me to be close to anymore, but we were best friends for years in middle school and I've known her family forever. I was there when she found out that she was pregnant and I was happy for her until she started acting like a complete you-know-what. Her grandmother died this summer and she just lost her mom 8 months after I lost Sophia in 2010 so we have been somewhat supporting each other through the losses.
She's about 9 months pregnant now with her first baby and I am trying to be happy for her but the closer she gets to her due date the less I want to talk to her. I hate to say this, but you will all understand what I mean... but she doesn't DESERVE THIS. She was so jealous when a friend of hers was TTC that she said she was going to "rub it in the girls face how easy she, (my friend), could get pregnant" and that girl had had like 9 miscarriages. I know she never even tried to really understand what I was going through and she constantly says stuff like "it's not like anything is going to go wrong" and "I'll never have a miscarriage cuz my mom never did and it's hereditary", and she talks crap about everyone she knows. I just don't understand why God gives babies to messed up people who make fun of infertile women and stab people in the back all the time? And her boyfriend is a alcoholic who never works and I just can't understand how she can willingly get pregnant in a situation like this. I'm sorry, I know I'm so wrong for feeling like this but seriously why does God reward crappy behavior and punish people who would give all their limbs for a child?!
She's about 9 months pregnant now with her first baby and I am trying to be happy for her but the closer she gets to her due date the less I want to talk to her. I hate to say this, but you will all understand what I mean... but she doesn't DESERVE THIS. She was so jealous when a friend of hers was TTC that she said she was going to "rub it in the girls face how easy she, (my friend), could get pregnant" and that girl had had like 9 miscarriages. I know she never even tried to really understand what I was going through and she constantly says stuff like "it's not like anything is going to go wrong" and "I'll never have a miscarriage cuz my mom never did and it's hereditary", and she talks crap about everyone she knows. I just don't understand why God gives babies to messed up people who make fun of infertile women and stab people in the back all the time? And her boyfriend is a alcoholic who never works and I just can't understand how she can willingly get pregnant in a situation like this. I'm sorry, I know I'm so wrong for feeling like this but seriously why does God reward crappy behavior and punish people who would give all their limbs for a child?!
Motek18
Sometimes it's easiest to just cut your losses. I had a friend who had said like 5 times she was 'pregnant' and had a 'miscarriage.' for attention. She never was pregnant though. She did it again a few months after I lost my daughter and I just snapped. I told her how crappy of a person she was and that some people really do go through things like that and it's not anything she should claim. Recently I found out that she really was pregnant and had a very painful miscarriage. I couldn't help but laugh at the irony. Karma does get back some times.
MissingmyEmi
Bless your heart, i agree with Motek18 i would cut ties with this person. We have all been through so much and we don't need anyone in our lives that isnt positive and supportive of us. It is hard when people around us are pregnant, i had two close friends that had babies around the time i had Emilyn and two that are pregnant now along with quite a few other people....sometimes it seems like everytime i turn around someone is either having a baby or has one on the way. Why is something we will always question, especially when we know or see people that aren't deserving of their children that infuriates me to no end i want to walk up to them and punch them! One of my husbands aunts took pills her entire pregnancy and she got her baby and im like really?!?!?! I just have to trust in God and know that there is a reason for this even if i will never understand it and i know that one day i will see my sweet girl again. Hang in there darling, hugs to you.
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