Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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erinrae-wodrich 03/15/2016

3-4-16 I went in for my 32 week appt. I could feel her kicking when I got up in the morning, by the time I got to my appt. 2 hours later they couldn't find a heart beat.
They tried inducing labor the next day and I went through a week of being in the hospital trying to go into labor. 3-12-16 I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. Dr.s have no idea what caused her to pass away. everything was fine all the tests came back normal.
last week was the hardest week of my life knowing that i would still go through labor to have my child but knowing that I wouldn't be able to take her home with me or hear her cry. leaving the hospital without her was extremely hard and I have yet to go into the nursery. I cant get the pictures of her out of my head. holding her little hand is all I can think about, wishing she could have held on. the pictures and things they gave me at the hospital are going to be cherished forever and Alexandria will forever live in my heart.
the funeral home is supposed to pick her up from the hospital today when they have finished the final tests they are going to do. I keep looking at the pictures I took of her and wondering if she would be a good sleeper or if she would cry all the time. I could careless if she cried 24/7, id give anything to have my precious little girl in my arms alive and well.

jessiedunn 03/15/2016

I'm sorry, I just lost my baby girl at 40w2d. I was finally not fearing something bad was going to happen when I stopped feeling her move. I think about her all the time and miss her alot. Giving birth to a child who you never will get to have was the hardest moment I my life. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Marthar1201 03/15/2016

I am sorry for your losses to both of you. I lost my first baby boy back in May 29,2014. His 2nd Angelversary is getting close. He is my strenght every single day. I miss him so much. For me the whole first year without him was the hardest... It still is but slowly my heart has learned to accepted that he is in a better place. My son's heart stopped beating at 36 weeks. Since I lost him, I lit a white candle for him everyday. I buy him flowers, still visit his grave as much as I can. It comforts me visiting him, talking to him and playing Nursery rhymes for him when I visit his grave.
Your babies will always be in your heart. You will miss them forever, and DS is a great place to get support form mothers whom like you, have lost they babies do to stillbirth, miscarriages.... And others.
Cry, scream, smile, nightmares, and others feelings and symptoms are normal. Let it all out it helps, I used to wake up crying waking up looking for my baby, or rubbing my belly....wishing it was all a dream....
My prayers to you. I'll pray for your strenght and for you to find peace in your heart.
Hugs your way,
Eli's mommy, Martha

elainesmith 03/20/2016

I am so sorry to all of you, I lost my son Kowen 1 year ago April 2nd. I can't believe it's been almost a year, the first 6 months were such a fog, I feel like I slept through it all. I have such vivid memories of holding our son for 8 hours after he was born then the next 6 months are so fuzzy, all I remember clearly is how much it hurt to go on without him. It took me 7 months to go in his nursery. And even now it's just as it was the day we found out his heart stopped. We were somehow blessed to get pregnant again right away and just 10 months and 22 days after losing our son I gave birth to a healthy baby girl. She s now 3 1/2 weeks old and is a blessing in everyway. I used another room in our house for a nursery for her because i couldnt bare to put Kowens things away yet. I still cant and its been almost a year. She is a beautiful gift from her brother in heaven. However, having her doesn't bring back Kowen. I miss him everyday and picture what a good big brother he would have been. As hard a losing him was I would never take back having him, the small amount of time I had with him is better than never having known him, I loved every kick and squirm and all 8 hours I held him in my arms even knowing I had to say goodbye. This year has been a roller-coaster but it's one I would never take back. Prayers for strength for all of you who have just lost their babies. I wouldn't wish this on anyone.

mrskebert1117 03/29/2016

I'm soo sorry for you. I too have lost a son. I lost Parker January 31 2015, I was 6 months pregnant. I lost him due to having high blood pressure from being really sick with gallbladder attacks. We are all here if you need to vent or talk, That was one thing I was told when I had joined last year no one will ever judge you we just want to help you. I again am sooo sorry for your loss.

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