Stillbirth Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.
Last night a family member and I had a huge fight over things. It all started with her being hurtful about my education then it went out of control from her side. She is like a drama teen yet should be an adult.
During the fight she used a lot of things that she knew nothing about or the truth behind any of it. I told her about my son and now I wish I never did. She made fun of it. And kept saying I was not a mother etc.
My reaction to that was nothing but hurt feelings, not because she is family saying this, but that I told her something that I didnt tell many about and she threw it in my face last night.
I greatly miss my son, I wanted nothing more then to have a child. And hearing I was with child I was so happy! but sadly it had an awful ending. And I have not been able to become pregnant again. The doctor has said there is no chance of me being able to carry to full term and there is only a 2% chance I can even get pregnant. So her rubbing this in my face was an awful feeling as it raised all my feelings about life and how my dream of having children is a very slim chance.
In aug it will be 3 years, and there is not a day that goes by I dont think of my son. I wish I had a toddler running around making noise screaming anything. Having nothing is heartbreaking.
I just dont know anymore....
During the fight she used a lot of things that she knew nothing about or the truth behind any of it. I told her about my son and now I wish I never did. She made fun of it. And kept saying I was not a mother etc.
My reaction to that was nothing but hurt feelings, not because she is family saying this, but that I told her something that I didnt tell many about and she threw it in my face last night.
I greatly miss my son, I wanted nothing more then to have a child. And hearing I was with child I was so happy! but sadly it had an awful ending. And I have not been able to become pregnant again. The doctor has said there is no chance of me being able to carry to full term and there is only a 2% chance I can even get pregnant. So her rubbing this in my face was an awful feeling as it raised all my feelings about life and how my dream of having children is a very slim chance.
In aug it will be 3 years, and there is not a day that goes by I dont think of my son. I wish I had a toddler running around making noise screaming anything. Having nothing is heartbreaking.
I just dont know anymore....
You mention that this family member is a teen. I don't have to tell you that teens make many comments that are ignorant and hurtful because of their immaturity. It doesn't excuse the behavior, but you have to know that she likely doesn't mean what she said. Two weeks after my baby was delivered still (which sadly was only 3 weeks ago) my five year old nephew kept asking me if I "wanted my baby". I wanted to strangle his little neck. But he is a child who doesn't know better.
Perhaps you don't tell people under a certain age what you've been through. The truth is no one can know the pain of what you've been through but the women who have gone through it as well. Be careful who you trust that information with because it's a deep experience that very few adults can even process.
Of course you miss your son and you won't ever stop. I don't know what your medical circumstances are in terms of fertility, but I've seen medical experts proven wrong.