Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
My step son turned 4 in February. We have a great relationship with him. He loves being with us and treats me like I am his mom (I’ve been in his life since he was a baby so he doenst know any different). My husbands ex wife is so bitter from divorce and really resents my husband, she is super controlling and ultimately would rather we were not involved in their sons life.
This weekend he asked me when his mom was going to pick him up. He told me that the judge says when he gets to go each house. She I asked him who told him that he said his mom. He went on to tell me that he shouldn’t be at our house for three days in a row because his mom would miss him. He said he should just be with us for one day. He said that his mom said the judge makes the rules.
I feel like this is super inappropriate to tell a child that young. It seems super manipulative and like it could cause long term damage...any thoughts or advice on how to respond to our son or how to address with with the ex?
My husband's ex-wife was a party girl wild thang, who married my husband when she saw a good thing. Twelve years and two little girls later, she decides she would instead go whoring, I mean do back up singing for a band aboard a cruise ship and stay AWOL for over a year. Do you think her two little brats would see their egg donor for who she is? Hell no!
Five years later, she's the fun parent, the Disney Mommy who buys, buys and buys them love - I mean thangs! They defend her even if comments aren't meant maliciously. Case in point, their father, would tell them, 'girls, you can't have that sixth slice of pizza because it might make you fat.'
Girls, "Don't shame us about our weight! You are just saying that because Mom's a little, tiny bit overweight'.
Five years later, she's immature, drunken, pot smoking, an obese fat lady who doesn't care about herself (because no other man is stupid enough to have a long relationship with her other than an occasional hookup). Now, she wants to hoover my husband back into her spider web. She had deemed it wrong if her offspring have anything that resembles any kind of a relationship with me - even if I do more for them than their sorry excuse for an egg donor does.
I am not hurt, because I don't expect anything from these kids. To tell you the truth, I think they will end up being just like their egg donor, I mean Mom.
Back to you, don't say anything negative to your skid - even if its the boldface truth . Over the years, if he starts to trust you, just listen. Else, he will be just like her and in that case you are just insulting him and his Mammy.