Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
my stepdaughter is 6 yrs old. She has gone through some very traumatizing life events that includes losing her mom a year ago. She currently lives with her aunt where she was placed by CPS when they removed her from her mother. Her dad/my husband has been doing everything needed and asked in order to have her live with us. She comes on weekends & i struggle because she wont listen, she is sneaky, she likes to takes my sons toys from him & has been too rough with him. I want to love this little girl as my own & Im trying but her behavior causes so much stress that her dad & i end up fighting all weekend. Its sad because the moment she leaves all is great again. How can I work with her & not feel resentful. I know she must miss her mom & want to live with her dad where I do with our 2 year old. I feel like a horrible person feeling so angry & fed up when shes here.
As far as the toys go, maybe find her some similar toys to have for herself to play with? Then she wont have a reason to take your sons toys?
How does your husband act when these situations happen? I hope that he is supporting you and your feelings?
I know first hand how hard it is to deal with the feeling of being the only one who feels something are a issue. I have given up, not without feeling hurt and disrespect mind you, but my SD is going to be 18. My feelings and cause are no longer valid.
Good luck!
If and only if she does that (attaches) then she'll want to behave for him. That won't stop the acting out......but she'll at least be trying. Then it needs to be him telling her to "stop", or "hand the toy gently" or whatever.
Meanwhile, you can spend one on one time with your son.
If dad is sleeping, leaving it up to you to cook, clean, and watch the kids......he's not "doing everything".