Step Families Support Group

Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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amethyst80 03/02/2009

So my myspace name has always been Mrs. *****, and to day the BM of my SD has changed her name to formally known as Mrs. *****. Why in the world would she do that. Yes, we have recently gotten into it, but I refuzed to have any type of conversaions with her or to talk with her, because nothing I say or do will make her happy and frankly I am not married to her, the only reason she should need to contact me is if MY H was available. How do I get her to leave me alone?

deleted_user 03/02/2009

Just ignore her...shes the one that looks stupid! Its obvious that shes trying to get under you skin and since i dont know the situation she probably she has resentment about the divorce, maybe. Don't change your myspace thing either...just ignore what she did....dont say anything to her about it either! She just wants attention...eventually she will give up and probably change it. Also, is she remarried? That would definitely be a slap in the face towards the new husband...

amethyst80 03/02/2009

Yes she is remarried. Your right I am not going to stoop to her level, and just the fact that she has to put formally, that alone says it all.

deleted_user 03/03/2009

Even if she is remarried, she is most likely not happy because she is still concerned with what is going on with you and your DH. "If momma ain't happy, nobody is" You should definitely ignore her. Play "reverse-psychology" on her and "Kill her with kindness". It truly works. It has been played on me and suprisingly, I fell for it. In my case, BM and I are cordial (we say hi in a nice voice and that's it) and that is the extent of it which is great! Maybe you should show her how to respect someone else by doing it to her??? I know, not the vengence we sometimes want to hear, but its worth a try... JUST ignore it and be cordial is all I'm saying...good luck

deleted_user 03/03/2009

Oooh - I agree - ignoring this will be the best way to deal with her and it will eat her up at the same time. She is asking to start trouble so ignoring it will be the best way to show her you are above it! (and get under her skin!)

deleted_user 03/04/2009

What I've discovered is that sometimes woman in general have nothing better to do than mess with other woman. Because sometimes we are tools.

As for MySpace...it's MySpace not YourSpace. So she is using it as a tool to get under your skin. A friend of mine has the same problem. Her hubby cheated and now the gal won't leave her alone. It is seriously cyber stalking and the single white female syndrome.

You can't do anything about it except ignore her and report her to MySpace. She can then just create another profile. Thusly the cycle continues.

Also, keep in mind that MySpace is a place where you can essentially be who you want to be. You are going to "present" yourself to the world how you want to be seen. You determine what people do and don't see. You control the impressions being given and received. You're profile can say a lot about you just by the font choice, background, graphics, comments, and friends.

If your DH's ex is Mrs.....then really she's showing people that she is Mrs....even if she isn't. She is showing those who know her and the situation that she isn't over him or it. She hasn't let go and HerSpace is a prime example. Whatever she has posted is like being in her house where anything and everything is available.

I know it's frustrating, but part of that comes with the freedom of speech and expression. She's expressing herself even if it makes her look a bit obsessive.

Don't change your page because of her...again it's MySpace not YourSpace.

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