Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
so i have had a wonderful day *sarcasm* my husband didnt sleep last night and neither did i so we were both bagged this morning so i get to crash for anhour on the couch before any of the kids were up and he gets to sleep all day up in bed with no kids to bug him then when i finally nag him enough to come down and help me cause i am tired he comes and lays down on the couch and falls back asleep and the only thing he would wake up to is when my daughter screamed because his son was tormenting her for the hour before that. then my daughter was watching tv and ss was playing his ds and his batteries died so he gets up and reefs the remote out of my daughters hand and changes the channel on her and when i step in i am the big bad guy so i now own all the remotes in the house when the kids are up i pick whats on tv. so i am the bad guy cause my husband wont do a damn thing when it comes to actually disipline SS so i have given up i am the bad guy i will thrive in the position i will make them hate me cause its easier for them to hate me then keep putting out the effort to be friendly and still have them hate me, i never get a thank you for the fact that i pretty much wash their entire wardrobes every single week because they will never put there clothes away and if i do it then i am invading their privacy and once again the bad guy. i give up why should i bother anymore. i am expected to run this whole house with no help with the kids and sit here smilling everynight with my husband i love my kids and husband dont get me wrong but right now i just really dont like them at all. i am tired of them not listening and not getting backed up by my husband getting attitude from a 7 and a 9 year old being screamed at by my 7 year old im am really losing it. today i absolutly HATE MY LIFE.
Try not to worry if they will like you or not. Just be yourself. I have done the nice route and still the "bad" guy.
I would say try to "step" when it comes to the stepkids, however, when it directly effects your daughter, you can't sit there and allow him to do that.
Have you had a family meeting with all the kids and hubby? What is expected of each person? Talk to hubby privately first.
Maybe quit doing laundry for them until they behave. Until hubby backs you, your ss will keep doing what he is doing.
Hugs to you! It's a hard thing being a stepmom.
By the way, how often do you have the stepson?
Unless it involves your daughter, try to step back. As for their clothes, well, don't wash them unless they ask (nicely) for clean clothes. And if your husband has issues with that, show him where the washer is and how it worksw.
I know, I know, easier said than done, I am still working on it here, but it's the only way for me to preserve SOME sanity.
Hope it gets better!